my ex (while we were still together)found out that i had slept with someone by reading this someones diary (by accident she says) should she have been able to act upon that information or what? Understandably my friend was very upset too, and it caused all manner of problems, but i'm just interested in peoples views....
2006-10-18 23:15:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh, just to let you know me and my ex were on a break when it happened, admittedly only for 2 days, but hey, you know the rules
2006-10-18 23:17:09 · update #1
First of all she shouldn't have read the diary anyway. If like you said you were on a break, that still didn't give her the right to read someones diary. If I were the person that owned the diary, I wouldn't have been too happy. Since she did, she still shouldn't have been too upset that you played while she was doing her own thing....Could you trust a woman that would read something she shouldn't have in the first place?
2006-10-18 23:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one this. I know I've sneaked into my daughter's diary - yes, I know, I know .... But as a parent, you will do anything to protect your child (she's talking to a guy on the internet, and I'm really worried.)
Anyway, that's not the issue here. I think the point is: someone will always find out. The girl could have told your ex and you'd still be in the same position. If you can't take the heat, don't do the crime. What's worse, reading someone's private thoughts or snitching? Or sleeping with their best friend?
It's all pretty grey.
2006-10-18 23:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that no diary was read, a conversation was had between the 2 of them and some truths came out, for which they had to make excuses for how your partner had found out. Even though your mate didn't want to see your partner hurt (give them some credit for that) it seems asd though your mate isnt really loyal to you, or there were some other reasons for your mate telling your partner (maybe malicious, maybe not). If my mate told my partner something like that, I wouldnt be very happy with them and wouldnt trust them in future, as they were willing to jeapordise my relationship and cause all sorts of problems, although maybe you should think about not initially causing these problems yourself when you are on a 'break'. Come on, 'we were on a break' is a complete cliche. Hope this helped xx
2006-10-18 23:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I have actually been involved in a similar situation. I was dating this girl that was 31 years old and 11 years older than me.She looks like she is 22 years old though. anyways i always had this insecurity that she was looking for a guy more her age and closer to her income. I decided to look through her phone one day cause she screamed at me and said some hurtful things to me. I found a lot of stuff that i didn't like considering how deep and personal our relationship was. I don't know about you but i would never go behind someones back so i think i deserve the same respect. Maybe i was wrong for going through her phone but what was going on behind my back was just as bad.
2006-10-18 23:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were doing a Ross and Rachel thing eh!
Well I don't really find the "on a break" thing an excuse but yes she may have been wrong to read the diary but not wrong to act on it. I think anyone would have acted on reading that.
2006-10-18 23:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was something really bad like that I would of acted upon it, but then I wouldnt read someone elses diary but maybe she should of known you were a cheating bastard!!! Sorry to be blunt but Im sick of all thse men taking women for a ride!!
2006-10-18 23:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest you're both in the wrong, she shouldn't have read your diary and you shouldn't have slept with someone behind her back, but i think you can only act on something you've read if it mean's somebody is being harmed
2006-10-18 23:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Star dust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!
OK think about it...what if you read ur ex's diary coz u found it under ur bed or something...and when you read it you discover that she slept with your brother( more than once) while u were out of town [hypothetically..]
What would you do?? I dont think you would ignore it...could you be certain that its not still going on?
There you have your answer
2006-10-19 00:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Brown_Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's no other way of acting. Just because you did something that might be wrong (accident or not), you just cant ignore the information. You cant deny that you know it. Plus, everyone involved should accept the consequences, including the reader...
2006-10-18 23:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Absintha . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you turn this round and imply that she has done something wrong when you're the one who cheated??
Also, I don't think a break is a licence to have a couple of one night stands. It's meant to be an opportunity to have some space to think about how you want your relationship to progress.
2006-10-18 23:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋