Whats it like being a teen parent?

Question

is it hard being a teen perant?how do you cope i cant stand having a little brother and sister let alone having one my self..

Answer 1

I'm not sure as I had my children when I was in my mid-twenties. It was and still is bloody hard work so I should imagine being a teenager, it is ten times as bad, trying to cope with lack of money, usually, your own changing hormones and then a baby! Hats off to whoever can do it - I'm not sure I could have.

Answer 2

Little brothers and sisters are way different from your own child. Because a lot of people can't stand their little brothers and sisters but your child you will always love. Being a teen parent is hard in some ways but as long as you have support from your family or the daddy sometimes friend. It's hard because some teen parents aren't financially stabled and that's a big problem in their child's life. How could you support a baby when you don't have enough to support yourself. But you should get a job and that will help out a lot if you are planning pregnancy. If you are not planning it just make sure your love one have a job just in case.

Answer 3

It is not really much different than being older when you have children. Other then having to finish HS or get a GED then move on to college where older parents are normally either in college or done with college.

I have 2 kids the oldest is about to turn 3 and a newborn and I am 20. The kids were both by the same guy, but he passed away so I am on my own! I have an associates degree, going to go back to school for a bachelors next fall. I have made it just fine, I don't see how it is really any different than it would be if i started having kids at an older age. As long as you get a job, still go for the plans you have in life like college.

Answer 4

I usually don't read answers before giving my own but this time I did bacause I see 25 answers
well I am sorry for some of the answers that you have gotten
To be a parent is hard, I have never been a teen parent
but from my point of view to be one is the hardest job you will ever have and it is forever you can 't just quick, I know you will not be getting a pay check but at the end if you lucky the payment is the greatest because it a pride that only a parent can feel as the same time their can be soemdown time like having a child in jail for killing another human being
but to been a teen parent must be extremely hard
imagine you are still a child yourself in need of a parent signature
yet for you to have someone depend on you for A to Z

it like a life sentence of hard labor
for both you and that child, sometime teen parent end up resenting their child because they had never had a chance to finish their childhood
If you asking this ? because you are preg
seek counsoling before the child is born
that way you can deal with the lost of your childhood
Good Luck

Answer 5

It is very hard,i had my 1st baby at 19 & i found it so difficult even though i was in a relationship at the time & he was supportive,we were very silly & had another baby 2 yrs later & the pressure drove us apart... u can't imagine the pressure bein a young parent puts u under,i'm in my mid 20's now & am on my own with both kids,something i thought would never happen.. Its a daily struggle to go to college & get to work while raising the kids... i wouldn' recommend any1 get into that type of situation if they can avoid it..

& in ref to some other answers on this question i am not nor have i ever been a tart,thats not why i was a teen parent..

Answer 6

My sister had four kids before she was 21 years old. First one she was only 15 second 17 then 19 and 20 her third and fourth. If you are pregnant then you should be ready to care for a baby. Surely you knew that was a chance before having sex. If you have support from your parents and family you will be okay. Just remember that there is a possiblity of getting pregnant the next time you want to have sex.

Answer 7

It's hard. You have to sacrafice a lot. You have to grow up alot. But the strange part is that you WANT to sacrafice for your child and you WANT to grow up so that you can take care for and be the best example you can be for your child.

I know when my children get old enough to do math they'll probably be embarrased and maybe a little mad that I had them so young, but I'm hoping that since I shower them with love and try my best to raise independent, smart, compassionate kids that they'll look beyond that and realized that they were loved and cared for and never 'needed.' I don't say that they won't want for anything, because right now I'm the big mean mommy b/c my son can NOT have a motorcycle at the age of 3, lol. But he doesn't need anything, that's my job to make sure he has everything he needs and I love doing that job.

Answer 8

ok i went through this, so just take it from me.
you will love your child unconditionally, and nothing will ever change that. you would love your child just as much as if you had him at 25, 34, etc.
it would, however, put strains on any romantic relationship you ever have (whether you are still with the father or not.) you cant go out on dates, because you need to be at home with your baby. you cant party, you cant just think "oh, i need *this and this* from the store" and get up and get it, you have to see if the baby's awake first and then make sure he's dressed, has a clean diaper, and is buckled into the car seat. A five minute trip will turn into fifteen or twenty.
you probably wont have money for things for yourself, for clothes whenever you feel like going shopping with friends, going to the movies, going out to eat, whatever. babies are expensive, they need formula, baby food, diapers, clothes....they outgrow clothes like crazy, u will almost be buying clothes every month.
i dont know if you're still in school or not, but whether u go to school or work, it's still a strain to stay up all night with a crying baby, get three hours of sleep, and go to work. that's probably the hardest thing ive ever experienced.
anyway...i wouldnt recommend being a teen parent, please, if its not too late, wait until you are older...
but if it is too late remember all babies grow up, and those are just a few bad things, nothing can even compare to the good things about your baby.
good luck!!

Answer 9

I got pregnant when I was 16. I won't tell you it's all fun and games. It is hard...But all parents have it hard!!! No matter how old they are.
I will tell you one thing, if you aren't MATURE enough to put someone elses needs before yours, ( meaning your baby) then you can't be a successful mother. Teen or not.
I enjoyed my experiences as a teen Mom. My daughter is now 5, and growing up nicely. And I did this on my own. No regrets.

***The decision is yours. But it sounds like you aren't ready.

Answer 10

the only bad thing about bein a teen mum is that ur body is not fully developed therefore its harder wen ur in labour than an average fully grown women other than that i dont think it makes a difference on the age if ur a single parent for what ever reason of course its gona b hard u have to look afta urself and another little baby havin a second person hepls and eases the stress and is better for the baby havin 2 luvin parents. my mum woz a teen mum at 18 wiv her first kid but my dad stuck by her throught out the hole thing and she sed yh its hard but everyfin in life is hard thats not a reason to give up or feeel ashamed shes proud she had kids early and sed if she cud go bak in tym she wudnt change a thing !!!!! i think thats suming ppl shud fink about b4 goin around callin teen mum a lil tart ect. if they havent been in the same situation btw... how do u kno they concieved the baby with their consent wot if they got raped and didnt want to kill a baby then wot about that if u dont kno the fully story u shudnt judge !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

I don't know what everyone else is talking about. I am almost glad I am a teen parent. It was not planned, but I am young enough to enjoy my child. I do care for my child on my own without any help from the father. I was 16 when my sister had her son, she wen't into such a deep depression, that I ended up taking care of him (she was 28). I completed school, while taking care of him, and I managed to do everything just fine. He will be 2 in December and is just an amazing little boy, who has learned so much. My sister is taking care of him now, but it took her till just about May to get a hang of it. But I am expecting my own child any day now. I don't expect it to be much different now. I did not recive help with my nephew and I will not be recieving help with my child. But it just takes hard work and perseverence. I start college in the spring. I work from home, and I pay my own car, rent, and have gotten everything for my child. While I am going to school at night, I will have a baby-sitter that I pay for, two nights a week. But if you have the will power you will find the way.