But i have started buying little bits & bobs every month in a hope that by 7-8 months i will have everything i need & will not have to spend money (that will be tight on my partners wages alone when i stop work) on baby's bits. Many people have told me i am silly for buying stuff this soon? I appreciate the higher risk of miscarriage under 12 weeks but is it not better to think positive & be prepared for my new arrival?! I would like to know when other first time mums started buying their first bits & bobs? Thank you. x
2006-10-18 22:23:15 · 38 answers · asked by Gemma 27.05.2007 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all congratulations. If you want to buy things now then of course you can, no reason why you shouldn't if you keep yourself healthy and don't do anything that will endanger you or your baby. I started buying things as soon as i found out. You can't help yourself as the stuff is so lovely you can't go in a shop empty handed.
You are very wise doing it in stages so you will not be struggling near the time. It can get expensive if you leave it all till last minute. Baby grows are what are needed the most when they are first born. They will bring up milk often when being winded and leak. You will need lots of babygrows to start off so i recommend you have lots of those. They are quite cheap aswell.
Also there are shops where you can put cots away and prams and pay of as little or as much a week as you can afford. That is a big help and you got lots of time to pay them off if you start now. Get a bag of nappies here and there to stock right up. It sounds extreme to some people but beleive me, you will go through them quickly. Once baby arrives you will want to enjoy bonding and being with the baby and resting so you will be glad you started early.
Good luck for the future and take care, it is a wonderful experience, you are very lucky. Just enjoy.
2006-10-18 22:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by daka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being positive at all about this pregnancy, why shouldn't you? But I think putting the money away each month is a better idea than buying actual items.
Only because items bought potentially could add to the pain felt if (God forbid), anything happened during a pregnancy.
Once you've had your 16 week scan then you can relax more, and also you'll be able to make your money go further in the New Year sales!!
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months.
2006-10-18 23:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Alfa Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible not to 'accidently' find yourself in mothercare maxing out the credit card when your first is on the way! I know the common sense approach may say dont get too exited until your 12 weeks gone but this is silly. Theres no way you will be more upset if you miscarry and happen to have a pair of booties in your drawer! also, 12 weeks is a general but not solid rule, things can go wonky at any time up to and including birth but then we could all get hit by a bus tomorrow so we can't live our lives on the 'What if?' wagon.
Enjoy this time, it's so special. get a book that shows each stage of baby's development so you can both see exactly how big it is week by week.
As for being strapped for cash - any parent MUST BUY the baby food books by Annabel Karmel - these are fantastic books that let you make all your own baby food when little one is ready to wean and not only do you not feed the poor fella on processed rubbish from the supermarket but you save a fortune making it yourself (and it's dead quick & easy - make a big batch, freeze it and you've got good home cooked baby food ready to go)
Kids are the single most fantastic thing you can ever have and will bring out a whole new side of you both that you never knew you had. Most of all enjoy this time, plan well (you can never have too much of anything!) and don't argue too much over the name!
Now, put your feet up!
2006-10-18 22:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by The Wandering Blade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 8 weeks your chances diminishes of having a miscarriage as does when you see the baby's heartbeat on an ultrasound. Telling him won't increase chances of having a miscarriage - if it's going to happen it's pretty unstoppable and if I were in your shoes I'd want the support of my partner if god forbid, something did happen. If you can wait that long then it's fine not to tell him until you're sure and you've had an ultrasound but there are points in any pregnancy where there are chances of the fetus dying and I'm sure your partner would rather know you were pregnant and miscarried to support you rather than think you weren't pregnant at all. Good luck x.
2016-05-22 01:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my doctors appointment I stopped at the store and bought a baby lanket and booties on my way home! It's never too early to start getting ready. And it is better to have a positive outlook rather than a negative one! So enjoy your pregnancy and buy all those little baby things. also drop a few hints to your mom,his mom and friends that a baby shower would be great! My youngest daughter "21" is pregnant with their first baby. The day she called and told me she was pregnant. I started buying and making things for the baby...it's a boy!
Congrats! and be sure to take lots of photos and get a small note book to write down special things that happen so you can put it in the baby's book!
2006-10-18 22:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I think we all do it, but why not wait until you get your scan and know what sex the baby is- it's much easier once you know.
Bear in mind that very small babies are very rarely dressed usually just in babygro's so don't buy lots of clothes 0-3 months as they end up with the labels still on and will no longer fit. (I did that - a wardrobe full of them!)
I was about eight weeks when I started buying things. Also at 10 weeks I went on holiday and went swimming with dolphins. The dolphin knew I was pregnant and kept pushing her head to my stomach! Very strange!
Congratulations!! Nice to hear that someone is excited instead of negative. Enjoy yourself have fun.
2006-10-18 23:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ges21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started buying the same day our daughter found out she was pregnant. not many people can afford complete layette and crib at once. had most of essentials by the time she was 5 months, then got highchair and stroller, then toys. He was due in Jan. but we had 17 xmas gifts under the tree or him. good thing as he was born 12-8. don't forget, you will probably have shower at about 7 1/2 mos. i usually buy 1 outfit for baby shower and spend the rest on disposable diapers and wipes
2006-10-19 01:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jerdiablo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a little early but with my first i had a lot of things by this stage, my only suggestion is why not wait till youre 12wks? difficult i know because youre so excited and there are so many adorable things out there,but having experienced a miscarriage last year and we had bought a few things it makes it sooo hard,we had a litlle girl 3months ago but we could never use the things we bought because it was the other baby's,by all means think positive and be prepared but think about the amount youre spending and if anything did happen(god forbid),would you use it?! congratulations on your pregnancy!
2006-10-18 23:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by lisa k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We started asap. It is usually best to wait to get the first trimester out of the way first.
Some people still view early shopping as bad luck. However, start now. If money is tight you will be able to pick up bargains as they appear, rather than having to pay full wack when you are out of options.
DO NOT use store/brand credit cards. The APR is horendouse.
There is a good nursery set at Argos. You might also look at IKEA. Their stuff is reasonable and cheep. Also:
www.twoleftfeet.com
www.kiddicare.com
(I thing the URLs are corect, but try a Google search).
These are good sites.
Good luck and congrats.
Alex
2006-10-18 22:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Alice S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how excited you must be, and it is easy to get carried away. I think I was the same with my first.
As long as you are only buying little bits it's OK.
What about opening a little savings account and putting money in there instead, then in a few months time when you need to get bigger bits you will have the money there. You can also keep the account open after the baby is born.
Good luck
2006-10-18 22:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋