She was an almost girlfriend in high school, and he hadnt seen her in alomst a year.. my Husbands friend started bringing her around the house in the last week. In only a week he fell for her. He left me at home sleeping to go tell her that he had feelings for her and she shared them and that he was confused... I dont know the truth only what he finally told me.. He went to her, walked with her, and held her hand. I can only pray that thats all it was but he left at 11am and didnt come back until 3pm. He says he told her that they couldnt be together and just wanted to be friends. He said he likes her but loves me. He says he loves me and Silas our unborn son. This is the same girl that has been invited over to my apartment on several different accounts to "hang out" while Im at work for 10 hours every night where I cant leave. He even invited her over after he supposedly told her that it wouldnt work. Let me remind you all that I am 81/2 months pregnant...
2006-10-18 22:06:58 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had to find out from my mother.. he told a guy that lives with my family that there was another girl and that he was confused...
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2006-10-18 22:07:29 · update #1
Er...... ditch him. He's taking you for a fool luv.
It will only be worse when you have a child to look after - your relationship will be strained beyond belief. You need someone you can trust, someone you can rely on to be faithful, someone who you don't suspect of being dishonest.
Considering you are having his baby - you need to put him in his place sharpish. Tell him you are carrying his child and if he wants to be a part of it's life, he's got to get a grip pretty damn quick.
Don't be a wuss. Just lay it all out on the table, be completely honest and be ready to turf him out if need be. The government has programs in place for single mums, and your better off raising a child without the stress of a shaky marriage, than trying to raise a child without the emotional support you will need so badly!
2006-10-18 22:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you do not want the girl to come over ever again. Hanging out, walking and holding hands, duh, they are having sex. Now, it is hard right now, no sex, probably, but still yet, if you love your husband and want him for your unborn child, then just forget it and go on. You have the ace in the hole, and that is the child. You must tell him that this bothers you, and you are having his child and you are trying the best you can to get through it. She was probably the one pursuing him anyway. If he wants to continue with a marriage and family, then he must respect your wishes now, when you need his support. He sounds a little immature, but deal with that later, just do not let him know that you know anything, and go on. Playing dumb is the best thing right now. you need him, and if you love him, fight for him. Once you have the baby, then you will look cute again, and the baby will bring you two closer together. Just forget it, and go on. Don't let this little "friend" have your husband by blowing your stack right now. Remind him your 8 1/2 months pregnant and I do not think you should be working now anyway.
2006-10-19 05:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st, do u think that u & him will be as happy as before if u forgive his mistake?
2nd, Can u forget this incident totally n re-accept him?
3rd, can u confirm that he will not repeat this mistakes?
Recently, i just read a book abt this..N there's a research shown that most of the guy won't learn their lesson...they will have it not the 1st time but 2, 3 or even 4...
if u r financially support, give a thought for your child, do u want your child to be "stuck" between the both of u if u caught your husband nxt time betraying u again? Children will always get hurt nor matter what...Belive me, because i grown up in this type mof family..
Well, if u still love him alot, n wish to give him another chance, u got to really forget this incident totally n never mention it again....
Tell him how hurt u r, n u willing to give him a chance if he promise to leave that girl....tell him, how nice n good of yours future with your born-to-be baby....
PLS don't let him to have u n her, it's very unfair to the both of u...
he's a man, he should settle this as he bought this out...
Try to talk to him, y he do this? :Love is selfish, nobody likes to share their man/woman if they really love them....
U can actually go to library n read some books regarding this or how to calm yourself n have a better mentally to settle..Nor matter what, remember, don't put yourself n your baby at risk..
May god bless u, my dear... *hugz*
2006-10-19 05:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by ?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what your feel. Ask him to put himself in your shoes. Inform him to stop being confused and be a mature adult. He is not in his high school years anymore. Like a girl but loves another girl. What bullcrap is this? Seriously u should tell him to make a decision because u feel really hurt and you cannot take whatever he was doing. Imagine if u were him. u like another guy but loves him. Ask him how would he feel if u do whatever he was doing. Then give him the silent treatment.
2006-10-19 05:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by NeedHelpGivesHelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are having to go through this, especially being pregnant. I have 2 things to say.I am first going to tell you what you should do, then I will tell you what I think. Whatever you do with this decision you are going to make.......LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. It doesn't lie. You know what I am talking about. That knot, sick feeling. I have been through this it's all lies he told me.The 3 in the morning story, I have heard it all too. Your to good for him even if he didn't cheat, because he still disrespected you and your unborn child.
2006-10-19 05:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by blonndilox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell that B!T(H to get the hell away from my man and My life. She is nothing more than a Home Wrecker! As for Him I would tell him that If he Doesn't Stop Seeing her He's going to be really confused when I knock his Sorry @$$ into Next week. You are Too Pregnant to have to deal with this crap and I wouldn't stand for it. Especially in MY house!
2006-10-19 05:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by lil_love1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is confused should be enough for you to know he doesn't love you. If he truly loved you there would not be confusion, And his inviting her over while you're at work? Don't be foolish girl, kick him to the curb!
2006-10-19 05:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and read about an unprepared couple regarding matrimony.
2006-10-19 05:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't leave any body . you have to keep him. i think u have mis-understood hm. better both of you again sit and discuss peacefully and solve your problem
2006-10-19 05:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him I don't think its unreasonable for you to ask him never to see her again not even as friends if he says no then leave.. he is showing you no respect... you don't need that ... you need to scare him enough to realize what he is risking...
2006-10-19 05:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋