She was an almost girlfriend in high school, and he hadnt seen her in alomst a year.. my Husbands friend started bringing her around the house in the last week. In only a week he fell for her. He left me at home sleeping to go tell her that he had feelings for her and she shared them and that he was confused... I dont know the truth only what he finally told me.. He went to her, walked with her, and held her hand. I can only pray that thats all it was but he left at 11am and didnt come back until 3pm. He says he told her that they couldnt be together and just wanted to be friends. He said he likes her but loves me. He says he loves me and Silas our unborn son. This is the same girl that has been invited over to my apartment on several different accounts to "hang out" while Im at work for 10 hours every night where I cant leave. He even invited her over after he supposedly told her that it wouldnt work. Let me remind you all that I am 81/2 months pregnant...
2006-10-18 21:54:11 · 17 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had to find out from my mother.. he told a guy that lives with my family that there was another girl and that he was confused...
2006-10-18 22:03:45 · update #1
leave him
2006-10-18 21:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by pawan c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said that he likes her but loves you and told her that he cant and wont be with her, then you should keep him, but dont let her come over anymore. If he really loves and respects you, he will stay away from her and not invite her over anymore. Good luck to you, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope he really is a good guy.
The fact that he has told you that he went to talk to her, makes me think he really does love you and you should stand by him. Maybe you two need to have a long talk just to make sure you know where each other stand, take some time to be alone together and reconnect, remind him of all the reasons why he loves you.
2006-10-19 05:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if he was having her there when you weren't at home thats a red flag. I am sorry to hear this is something you are going through at this tage during yor pregnancy. He has been dishonest with you and running around behind your back. That is completely disrespectful. If he is doing this to you while you are pregnant, who's to say what he has or will do. I recommend leaving him. You'll never have the trust you once did. Youd deserve a lot better. Congrats on the baby.
2006-10-19 05:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first,cogratulation on the baby.
i hope it goes well for you,the next few month will be vry cofusing
for you.
new baby
scared to be and to do it alone
cheating husband.
put yourself in is shoes for a second
you see this guy that you had a crush for a long time you
spend time with him,alot of time with him
want you think will happen?espacially when you find out he feel
the same about you.....
what do you want in this relatioship
to be the doormatt.......no right?.........
you want someone to respect you and love you like he take
the time to spend it with some else untill 3.a.m
poor baby is confuse,not thinking about you or you're son.
he is very insecure and selfish
be careful is not to trust and her also,don't let her back around you,she's trouble he will get hurt and come back crying
because you will be standing there.....
i would rather be alone then living with a cheater who comes
back because of the baby......
it was'nt about sex....a unsatifying men,it was about is bleeding
heart and is unhappiness with you......
that hurt's more.......
take care sweetheart
isabelle
no ultimatum please
he tell you he's not happy
don't site there and let him choose
LET HIM GO.....for you're sake and the baby
2006-10-19 05:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum. Tell him that he'd better cut her off in a week, or you'll cut him off. It's not fair that he's putting you through this - to pursue a relationship - even a platonic one - can be devastating to a marriage. Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating.
Start talking to a lawyer if he doesn't shape up. He made a promise to you in marriage. If he's running off in the middle of the night to hold hands with her, and he's not by your side now, when you need your husband most, how can you expect him to be there for your child?
2006-10-19 05:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is more going on than he is telling you. I find it hard to believe that they have been hanging out that often and not sleeping together. Either way "cheating" can happen without anything physical involved. Do you want to be with someone you don't trust? Will you ever be able to trust him again? Is this an environment you want to raise your child in? Talk to your friends and family. They may have valuable opinions and wisdom, but most importantly listen to your own.
2006-10-19 05:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Gia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there and it hurts terribly but i would let her have him, show him there are consequences for his actions, set boundaries. and if he don't come back so be it. you can't allow that kind of treatment of yourself. i would leave him or ask him to go, it's odvious he has chosen his road, which you have no control of. take care of you and silas cause in the end your children is all you have, men come and go honey. don't let that woman in your house. you deserve so much more from life, and if he loved you and silas the way he says he wouldn't be doing these things to you.
2006-10-19 05:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one can tell you what to do, but if it was me I don't think I could really trust him. And would you really want to bring a child into a relationship with no trust? Give him an ultimatum and if that doesn't work leave him. Its better to be happy and alone than miserable and together!!
2006-10-19 04:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by willt246 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u, i'll leave him..
y dont u confront him n ask him if he really love u, y in the name of god he did all that..meet her behind ur back, take a walk with her..etc...etc...sounds like he with u bcos of ur pregnancy/unborn baby....he must done hell lot of talking n walking n holding hands fr.11am-3pm!!!r u serious!!!even if nothing happened that day, judging from the current trend, something definitely will happen in future...y waste ur time holding torch for someone like that???
but at the mean time, ask him to honor his word..if he didnt love her,ask him not to meet her behind ur back...better still, ask him not to meet her at all!!if he cant do such simple act, probably u should start planning ur future sans him...
2006-10-19 05:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by fallforniky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him ''your' his friend. What he's doing is tempting fate. The inevitable will happen. Men/boys can't help themselves.
I don't believe him from your comments.
Take care of YOU! Especially seeing you're having little Silas soon. Good luck.
2006-10-19 05:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jan Frost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough! and i admire you for your strength and by keeping your cool!..what you can do is give your husband a dose of his own medicine...he has made these things messed up....leave him for a moment...so that your pregnancy won't be in trouble and for the baby to suffer less...let him realize things himself..don't nag about it....don't even try to compare yourself....just leave him..keep your cool...give him cold shoulder...and tell him that you will always love him and willing to forgive him as soon as he had made up his mind...that you would always wanted him to be happy with or without you....let his guilty conscience talk....he would eventually weigh things out.
2006-10-19 05:22:21 · answer #11 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋