My husband of 22 years is apparently going through a middlelife crises, he excersice alot and he keeps repeating that he has to have a blonde at least once in his life, he said that if he tells me about it then it is not cheating because he gave me notice.
I am going crazy, i feel pain and don't know what to do, I dont want to ruin my marriage due to his fantacies, we have 2 children and a good life.
I dont know how to explain to him that I feel bad around him when he starts with stupid jokes about me and his wish for a blonde because he wont listen, he thinks its funny.
any suggestions?
2006-10-18 21:45:17 · 16 answers · asked by cholilagros 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for your answers but he sais that he wants a real blonde...
2006-10-18 22:11:20 · update #1
Although I love the answers about wearing a wig or dying your hair. I thought better of it and decided to tell you to tell your husband that you fantasize about being with a man that only wants one woman and hope that you find that before you die. You need to throw smart a** comments back in his face. I must say he is a tad bit insensitive if he is making these comments to you, he should keep them to himself. Good luck
2006-10-18 23:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
Isn't it noble of him to tell u he wants to do it with someone else!..
NOT!! I know you must be hurting so bad. Because you ARE what you AREand You are NOT a blonde... Now do you think that there are many A men that prefer brunettes??..... YES!! Its not the hair of the cloths or the perfume. He wants to cheat, I'm sorry there is no other answer. If he has already done it in his mind, hes as good as done it...I don't believe it will go away. You deserve a man that loves you as much as you love him. Not to mention he needs to listen to what God says about Just doing it once with someone BESIDES YOUR WIFE!! GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE IS WHAT YOU HAVE. Tell him "you know what?" Then with a smile say I don't and won't play your games. Lets sell the house, and be done with it. Don't listen to OK, OK I've changed my mind cuz ... HE HASEN'T he will just keep it quiet now. Leave him or he will eventually Cheat and just NOT TELL you
Pray hunie.
2006-10-18 23:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by alheseas 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like some others have said, dye your hair or get a blonde wig. If he would still rather have someone else besides you, I think you should leave him and find someone who truly does love you. If he really loved you like he should, you would be all that he needs to be happy. Not to mention he would take your feelings seriously instead of treating them like a joke.
2006-10-18 21:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by EMT Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dye your hair Blond or wear a blond wig. At least that way he can have a blond with out cheating on you.
2006-10-18 21:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I GOT IT!! get him a hooker with the nastiest diseases ever then chain the hooker to your bed leave out of town for the weekend and when you get back tell him the chick was infested and if he made the right choice you will stay but if he banged her for real then leave him and the crabs will be a going away present.
2006-10-18 21:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by secretsofthe end 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dye your hair blonde, change you clothes to something that would make him notice you. give him the fantasy that he wants.it may make the marriage spicier. it's worth a shot. look him in the eye and tell him straight that he hurts your feelings and you wont have him saying stupid jokes about you. he needs to have respect for you.
2006-10-18 21:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by koloheiam 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i feel for you.
i would like to be SELFISH to one day.
get up one morning and tell me husband that he can have the
kids i quit........not that easy.hein...
you're husband don't want to cheat on you,but in not so
many words i is cheating but is doing it in front of you.
you can do it only if you feel confortable with it but remember
it's never a 1 time deal......
surprise him..... have the kids babysat in go on a little trip
with him,take time to get back there with him...do what you
thing you can before omeone else get's in bed with you...
good luck sweetheart
isabelle
2006-10-18 21:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pin on a blonde wig. The jokes stop there.
If he keeps it up, tell him what you like in a man.
2006-10-18 21:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some of the answers....dye your hair blonde or wear a blonde wig and let him have it!
2006-10-18 21:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for your situation - Really I am, but if it were me, I would dye my hair platinum blonde and scream at the top of my lungs - HERE YOU GO BIG BOY - LET'S GET IT ON!
2006-10-18 21:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋