i can understand that but at the same time i dont think its fair for him to spend 5 nights out of the week chilling with his friends and barely 10 minutes chilling with me and also on the other 2 nights he ends up playing video games and watching pornos all night? i dont want to leave him so what should i do ive tried talking to him and setting certain dates but its just not working is there anything else i can do that doesnt involve breaking up with him or leaving him
2006-10-18 21:03:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
make yourself unavailable to him. Please listen very carefully...try this for two weeks tops he will be BEGGING to spend time with you. Let him chill with his boys and have fun...fine....then when he calls you...as hard as it will be..DO NOT PICK UP THE PHONE....dont even call him back...he will call (if he is intrested)
when he wants to see you..tell him your having a girls night out..be vague..you dont have to tell him everything. keep this up for a while and he will be wondering what your up to and he will want to be all in your face!! trust and believe
2006-10-18 21:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could find some interests outside of him and leave him wondering where you are and with whom are you spending so much time. We usually don't want what is too easy or expected out of us. It is human nature turn the tables if you have to sit a the library for two hours a nite make sure you get home after him every nite and fall into bed exhausted. Don't ***** at him cause you were gone longer than he was and if he tries to make plans tell him to give you a little space you feel the need for it now also. Believe me if you two were meant to be together he will be asking your friends where you have been and with who, that's why you don't tell any of your girl friends anything, no one will have any I idea where you are and he will want to know and will know how you were feeling neglected by him and then you wink and say gotcha. I think no man will ever admit he is wrong until you make him feel like you were feeling then they can identify with how you were feeling. It is worth a try , what u got to lose?
2006-10-19 04:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything else. You are your best friend, what would you advise your best friend to do. You are right, to leave this jerk, and get someone who cares about you. He is an immature guy who needs his playmates, is this the type of person you would want to be with for the rest of your life and dad to your kids. Think now and do not wast another day on this guy, he is a loser. RUN.
2006-10-19 04:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him so much.... Loving a person is NOT to change the original person to suit your NEEDS. i think you love him coz his original behavior if not, you're not love him.
if you love him so much.... TRY THIS.
Try go out with him (5 nights) chilling with his friends
*HIS FRIENDS MUST BE YOUR FRIENDS TOO*
Try play video games and watching pornos all night with him (2 night)
conclusion: YOU'RE WITH HIM 7 DAYS A WEEK.
2006-10-19 04:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with the guy. He isn't that interested if he is spending more time with his friends than he is with you. That or you can make him jealous and start hanging out with a bunch of guys. That might make him change his mind and start paying more attention to you.
2006-10-19 04:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you think is going to change. I think it is obvious he would rather be some where else and if he is staying up watching porn all night, possibly wants to be with some one else. Hate to say it but deal with it or move on!!!
2006-10-19 04:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by rugerp89222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life too...seems like your whole world revolves around him. Go out with your friends & have fun. Better yet, break up with him. He's not giving you the attention you deserve.
2006-10-19 04:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by zac8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talk to him and convince him that that is not the life. If you still like him I doubt how long you will be together, when you can spend a night together, can he spend a life together.
2006-10-19 04:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this means he's dumpping you for someone else.. he's just trying to get you to dump him so you end up being the bad guy to his friends and family.. so turn it around.. go out with your friends, stay out late, if he wants to watch prono; tell him he can take things into hand - hes just trying to get you to lower your self esteem and morality.. tell him your a lady and ready for an adult relationship and not childs play. tell him it's time for reality and not child mentality. if he does not respond - dump him..or he will dump you..
2006-10-19 04:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it because if someone says they need space that's B.S. Don't wait for them to come around. You should be off doing your own thing.
2006-10-19 04:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by melyssa star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋