and then go hang out with his friends its killing me becuz im madly in love with him ive tried talking to him and tried picking certain days it will just b just me and him but it doesnt work i love him so much and i miss him every minute his away im so in love with him i want his time and company so much and no one elses im no one with out him im miserable without him i cant eat sleep or fucntion without him and its killing me every second hes away from me i dont know what to do ive tried everything i love and care about him so much i am madly in love with this man and its eating away my heart how he can just go and spend all his time with his friends and ignore me when im at home with him he was never like this at first its like hes a different man now but i know deep down inside he loves me and cares i dont know what to do i cant leave him he is my world my all my life my heart my soul my rib my everything
2006-10-18 20:35:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK - first you hate him, then you are madly in love with him??? Sounds like you need to make up your mind - remember - the reason we date (besides to sow our wild oats) is because we are looking for a PARTNER for life, someone to SHARE a life with and to possibly have children with. I have a feeling that the two of you are very young and it sounds as if BOTH of you need to do some growing up and maturing. There are other guys out there who would LOVE to have the chance with you and would probably give you the time and attention you deserve and need - He is not the last boy on earth - please just keep this in mind - Be a STRONG and INDEPENDENT woman!
2006-10-18 20:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend that is similar. He works so hard to provide for his family he sometimes forgets that family life is more important.
If you love each other as much as you say you do then try talking again. We have had to reach some sort of compromise, he works hard and I support him but one weekend a month he does not work and we spend time together and with the family.
Throughout time your relationship will change, allow him to go out with his friends to unwind, it doesn't mean he loves you any less. Don't forget you can go out with your friends too, enjoy your time apart and love the time you get together.
Try and reach a compromise together. Relationships require hard work on both sides for it to work.
Good Luck
2006-10-19 03:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by boudicea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all; how old are you? You need to find some friends your age to hang out with and if you have friends call them for some girl talk or go out with them anywhere.
A guy that knows he has you the way you have explained yourself to be is going to keep pushing it as far as you let him. Show him you love him, but also show him you love yourself and you have a life that does not only revolve around him. I bet if he sees you going place with friends and not just sitting at home waiting for him he'll stay home.
2006-10-19 04:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by moneka101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like i was saying to this other woman before my husband works night shift and he sleeps all day and he wants to hang out with his friends too but i also have two kids by the time he's in bed im awake looking after them the only time i spend with him is when he wakes up early... yeah it is pretty up-setting but it's worth it, if you love him i think you should just give him some room and when he wants to talk to you don't answer let him know that you don't feel like being the person on the back burner and only seeing him when it's convenient for him... i bet he will come around then
2006-10-19 03:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, yeah... Have u ever considered maybe GETTING A LIFE? Christ girl, listen to yourself! U probably are waaaaaay to over barring to even deal with.. Not trying to be mean but for real, u need to get busy with your life then once u have a identity of your own he more then likely will want to be around u more... U ever heard the term "playing hard to get" Try it on, walk around in it, and i bet u once he thinks that you are no longer soooooooooo obsessed with him he will come a knocken.... It just ant any fun to play with when its as easy as u r making it...
2006-10-19 03:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man cant be any good for you.
Dosent matter how much you love him, its a pointless relationship heading for more heartbreak if you two dont spend time togeather and he blows you off.
Talk to him again and let him know you are serious that you are going to leave him if he dosent make some time for you.
Even give the cold shoulder.
2006-10-19 03:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. if he's not giving you the time you want, maybe it's your time to seperate from him. He's picking the "Love of his life vs. friends" and always pick friends, That's your cue to find happiness out there that will give you time.
2. Or, indulge your time into a job, hobby or something and ignore him. Either he'll care to find out why you not behind him like a little puppy dog or he'll won't care and you two can split.
Choose your poision.
2006-10-19 03:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Yella Bunnyâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know somone who is going threw the same thing but the thing is i know it from the guys point of view he does pretty much the same but he says he goes and hangs with his friends cuz she b-yatchs about him sleeping to much. And my man aint no better he works sleeps and plays video games so all i can say is deal or move on.
2006-10-19 03:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have issues! 1) Get a life! 2) Get a job of your own! 3) Be thankful he works!
2006-10-19 03:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are draining him with ur neediness
noone wants aperson whose whole revolves around them, its to much responsibility
Try getting a social life of ur own, let him wonder were u r
2006-10-19 03:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋