Even though my girlfriend has been married to someone else and won't divorce him.. We have together for 5 years and she has been married to him for 15 years
2006-10-18 20:29:41 · 29 answers · asked by cockednlocked38 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are deceiving yourself. Do you want a future with your woman? If so, why would you knowingly have a relationship with a woman who will not divorce her husband especially if she's been with you five of those years? You're selling yourself short. In terms of cheating, if you talk to another girl with the intention of getting with her, sure - infidelity happens in your mind first - I'd say if you're considering it something is wrong, and maybe you should be the one to bring the issues to the surface- and there aren't too many ways to look at this - either you're frustrated and you want to move on and talk to other girls - or realize it's just frustration cause your woman won't make a clear decision about getting a divorce and starting a life with you - either way, a decision needs to be made, why skirt the issue?
2006-10-19 07:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Regarding her issue about not divorcing her husband well I'm sure you knew that before you make a committment with her. Married means together, they are sharing lives together but she isn't with him; she is with you that marriage is just a piece of paper. If it bothers you then you should ask her. I wouldn't waste my time with someone if there's no future in a relationship. For this reason, it tends you to have an excuse to talk to another girl which you probably like to do too.
2006-10-18 21:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about cheating on her in a serious fashion, then this scenario could lead down that road. Why ruin a perfectly good marriage? The divorce rate is high enough. Children need stability. Don't mess them up for your own sake. My generation had enough members of it trying to do themselves in, suffering from loneliness and depression, using drugs, job instability, etc. Parents factor into their children's lives in every way possible.
Now if this is just a harmless flirtation, and it has been going on for some time without any desire on either part to develop it, then don't worry about it. It is like looking at a nude sculpture or a fashion magazine. It is nice and aesthetically pleasing, sensuous, etc, but nothing more.
2006-10-18 20:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a few things to consider, for starters has she got a history of cheating? Has she kissed a girl before? Has she expressed a liking for that moment? Was it considered to be something of a serious or playful nature? We can't decide this for you, talk to her and determine all this, only you can decide if she's cheating or not.
2016-03-28 01:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking. No. Flirting...could get you trouble. She won't divorce? But is she seriously separated? Or just having her cake and eating it too?? Answer would depend on her genuine status as your girl. Has she been committing adultry for 5 years? or separated and with you for 5 years? You have a right to talk to another girl if you have no solid committment from 5 year relationship. Talking & Flirting are two different things tho'....
2006-10-18 20:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Unpredictable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to a girl is cheating...i am a serial cheater....i talk to girls every day. But seriously it depends what you are talking about. If it is normal conversation then no...if it is sex talk well it could be. Remember this cheating to me is if you do or say something that you would not want your partner to find out.
On the other side of your question your g/f has issues if she won't divorce her ex husband....i would be question that more than anything.
2006-10-18 21:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fiji_bound2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand your question correctly, u said your girlfriend is also married? If that's so then she is cheating on her husband with u, so what difference does it make if u talk to another girl? Doesn't make sense to me.
2006-10-18 20:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, woah, your girlriend is married to someone otehr than you?
Just dont even deal with that. If she isnt divorcing him, you need to get outta' that relationship before someone gets hurt.
But no , talking to a girl ISNT cheating.
2006-10-18 20:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not cheating. If your girlfriend is making a strong case for it then it probably means she has issues attempting to CONTROL YOUR SOCIAL LIFE.
If and when she looses control over your social life there is going to be a lot of anger in the home.
2006-10-18 20:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one. living with your g/f for 5 years but she been married to another guy for the last 15 years,,,,has nothing to do with you talking to another female,, but if you do talk with another female,, that's cool,,,,,talking doesn't mean your cheating,, ,,,if she couldn't trust you talking with another female,,,,then your missing some thing in your relationship, doesn't mean your sleeping with the female..i think your g/f.. the one cheating and needs a divorce..but that just me
2006-10-18 20:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by yellowstar61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋