I have been with him for 7 years and i have never orgasamed I feel like i get real close but the feeling just goes away super fast. I ,nor my husband, nor any other guys that i have been with have been able to make me. any help would be great!
2006-10-18 20:28:47 · 17 answers · asked by Cola718 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What does he do? Are you trying to reach orgasm through intercourse alone or are you trying clitoral stimulus? I have a very difficult time having an orgasm during intercourse, NO problem when I receive oral sex or stimulation to my clitoris by fingers (mine or his). You could also try a vibrator. Just make sure you RELAX - when I am tense or my mind is elsewhere it can take 3 times as long for me to peak than when I just relax and let it happen. Talk to your partner and you two figure out together what makes you feel good and if you start to get there don't quit until you get there! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-18 20:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, get some movies in, the adult kind, get some toys too, think about spicing it up, Anal Prolonged Oral Outdoor BDSM maybe public stuff like at adult cinemas, explore each others needs and wants and think about introducing another person/persons to the fun...this is a common danger with those who wait for Mr Right... a lifetime of finding out he lacks.... in a certain department...OH! and ignore the religious lunatics and dried out old hags that post one here they either no nothing of sex or masturbate with a crucifix while on here as the partenr ios doing it with the Pastor xx God Bless You
2006-10-19 04:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know how to have an orgasim with a man, is to learn how to have an orgasim by yourself first. Get to know your body and what you like, so that way you can teach your husband how to please you. Do positions that will greatly benefit you, and tell your husband to try and wait for you to orgasim first. (its hard, but it can be done) And dont put too much pressure on yourself, which can affect the chance of orgasiming greatly. Just relax and know in time, you will get yours. Remember to breathe deeply too, which will send more oxygen down towards the pelvic region. Hey, just think of it this way... Look how much fun you and your husband will have trying. Have fun and Good Luck!
2006-10-19 03:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chicadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you going about it? Has he tried giving you oral pleasure? Have you ever brought yourself to orgasm by yourself? Sounds to me like you have a mental block... you just have to let go and let things escalate past the point where you usually make your man stop. Maybe it is taking him so long that you get bored. God bless you for staying married to a man for 7 years of orgasm-less sex... Seriously there are lots of good books out there on how to deliver the big "O", but you might want to consider meeting with a reputable sexual therapist.
2006-10-19 03:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't try so hard. don't focus on it, just relax and enjoy yourself. focusing on the need to have an orgasm will stop you from having one because it's causing stress/anxiety.
if you've never had one at all, try you can try introducing a toy into play. you can use it by yourself and/or with husband. see if it helps.
Lastly, some people just don't orgasm. it's not a happy thought, but sometimes it's the case. I'd try some other things first though.
2006-10-19 03:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I need to read your answers because i have the same problem... My husband has to go down on me after we have sex to get me off
2006-10-19 03:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing it yourself first. If you can't make yourself O then you probably can't. Not every woman can O unfortunately. Just take your time, more foreplay, and relax and enjoy it.
2006-10-19 03:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there may be a medical reason or something but my boyfriend and i use this web site and watch the tv show and she helps answer alot of important q's try this i hope it helps you liked it did us
2006-10-19 03:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by GINA D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By calling in the "Pro from Dover"
2006-10-19 03:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need to relax, tell him when you are close to count from 500 backward so he goes slower or get him a cock ring, a lot of foreplay prior to sex will stimulate you more than just the wam bam sex,
thanx for cumin.....lol...
2006-10-19 03:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋