Ok so about 2 months ago a relationship between me and an old acquaintance began. It only lasted for about 2 weeks but things progressed quickly (no sex but some fondling and he spent the night almost everynight). Our senses of humor are very similar, we're sarcastic and constantly make rude remarks about everything (including each other). I ended the relationship because I genuinely felt that I didn't like him as more than a friend (that I might not ever) and I didnt want to lead him on. Over the two weeks I basically got to know (some of him) and I thought that it might not work out if we tried to go any further with the relationship that had ALREADY been rushed into.
My question is:
Now when we hang out, which is quite often, he is SOOOOO rude to me! He calls me names (which he did before, but it didnt sound so sincere) and is just a complete jerk. He says he is sorry, and I know he is, but what the hell is his problem? Is he just in defense mode because I denied him? HELP!!!
2006-10-18 20:27:00 · 9 answers · asked by Lilah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yeah, maybe he is. but maybe he likes u so much that he cant forget u had reject him befoer. juz confront him ok. gud luck
2006-10-18 20:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by didie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. He wants to have sex with you. He's frustrated because he wants to have sex with you, but you've drawn the line at being friends and he knows either it's friends or nothing. And being friends is better than nothing. But not having sex with is driving him nuts, because he wants you.
Only two ways to handle this. Have sex with him. Friends with benefits. That might work for him, probably not for you, and you risk that he'll fall in love with you in like a day or two. Bad idea. Or lay it on the line - being friends is watching each other's back, not trying to jump each other, and certainly not being ******* to one another. If he doesn't have your back, if he won't be a friend, then he has to go.
2006-10-18 20:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being rude is probably his way of showing that he is still upset about you breaking it off. He probably still likes you and is wondering why you dont return the feelings.
So you should probably sit him down one night and talk to him about it.
He may sincerly not know that you are taking his rude remarks as anything more than sarcasm.
2006-10-18 20:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes you and wants more than just a friendship. Some guys just have a difficult time dealing with rejection and resort to name-calling, and general rude behavior. They revert back to gradeschool/junior-high behavior like pulling your bra-strap, calling you names, poking fun at you etc. It's just his way of dealing with it. If it really bothers you, have a talk with him about it. But if you think his negative attitude and behavior toward you will fade with time, then I'd let it slide. Given some time, most guys snap out of it and move on. HTH!!
2006-10-18 20:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by olliebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with a very good friend, just recently.
it is obvious that he had other expectations and he is disappointed and hurt and he can't control the way he responds to you.
from my experience, this will never change (I've been having this problem for a few years with my friend. he wants to marry me but i don't want anything more than friendship and he cant handle that).
be careful, you don't want to let him treat you like sh*^!
2006-10-18 20:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Luv Thy Neighbour! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you to think he was hurt when you stopped liking him. He wants you to think he's totally over you. I did that to one of my guy friends who I liked and got rejected by. I was really rude to him for a few months. Maybe just give him space and time to collect himself and really get over you then he'll be nicer
2006-10-18 20:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by unoulvme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will act like boys, when they dont get their way. He probably like you said doesn't really mean how he says things to you, but you need to talk to him about what happened with you two, b/c hes obviously still bothered by it. be the bigger person in this situation, just because he's probably hurt by it.
2006-10-18 21:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by crazybitch23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it. Tell him to be nicer. If he doesn't, don't spent anymore time with him. Maybe he'll get the hint.
2006-10-18 20:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you talk about it with him if he won't accept it tell him the reason you cant do it is cause you have aids and are about to die soon he will leave you alone trust me.
2006-10-18 20:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by secretsofthe end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋