he sees me like a a dirty woman.it became our problem eversince. i see it as an art but he doesn't appreciates it.
2006-10-18 20:12:45 · 18 answers · asked by lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is the best thing to do, i don't want to remove it,but he wants me to & i know it cost a lot to go undergo laser removal,help.
2006-10-18 20:15:05 · update #1
A person who allows a tattoo to get in the way of their happiness and their mates happiness is stupid.
2006-10-18 20:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Devon M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the bigger question is "Why did you get a tattoo and not even discuss it with your husband first?"
A tattoo would be considered a life decision and a fairly controversial one at that. People tend to be polarized on this one - you either like them or you don't.
I don't think you are telling us the whole story. I would suspect there are some details omitted that would put this in perspective.
Let me take a guess or two:
[1] You are the fairly rebellious one, and he is fairly straight laced.
[2] This is probably not the first "wild child" thing that has come between you and he, although this one is definitely permanent.
[3] You either did this without telling him, or against his wishes.
[4] This is some sort of act of defiance that actually stems around something else.
[5] You were looking for a way out and this is going to be it.
2006-10-19 03:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by zdrgnslyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time, but let him feel the way he does. It's your body, yes, but your husband can't help the way he feels. The same would be if he made a change. I don't know exactly how he's acting about it, but I think it would be best if you both talked about it. You probably already did that though. Perhaps you can discuss why he feels the way he does. Why does he feel it's dirty, and is there anything he's not telling about how how he feels?
2006-10-19 03:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Laser removal does not mean it will be gone 100% anyway, there may still be a light outline or scar.
Did he make it clear he didn't like tattoos BEFORE you got one? If not, than how could you have known.
I have 7 tattoos and they are all meaningful, and they are all apart of who I am, and I would never let anyone else tell me what to do with MY body.
It sounds like he's making this a bigger issue than has to be, there has to be something else to it, something deeper, it doesn't make sense that he'd freak out like that.
2006-10-19 03:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has a different point of view when it comes to tattoos----some people love them and others could do without. I personally have 2, one on my lower back and one on the top of my foot. My husband has one on his chest. If your hubby isn't happy with your decision to be inked, and he is having a hard time accepting the tattoo, you might want to try covering it up when he is going to be looking at that area of your body. There is a really good make up kit that is specifically designed for tattoos called Covermark Tattoo Kit. Here is the link: http://www.covermarkusa.com/covermark_kits_tattoo.htm
Hope this helps!! :)
2006-10-19 03:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by presserized 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would remove it only because I have ridden Harley's my whole life. I am 50 now and female and never once have i seen a tat on a woman that made her look classy at all.I love tats on men but I just think they look trashy on women and they never age well at all. But it is your body and I would think out of respect for you, he could have at least tried to get used to it, before he insisted you have it removed. Is he a control freak? If so he needs to realize you are his wife , not his property. And love is a lot deeper than skin, don't you think?
2006-10-19 03:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at age 50 my mother got a boob job and at 51 she got a tatoo. If it makes you happy keep it. Don't let your husband bully into something you do not want to do. If he loves you than he should understand.
2006-10-19 03:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by katesname 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you care alot about his opinion which i find a great thing of you to do , then you should have talked about it before getting a tatto , i know ther is something they do to remove the tatto its like making another tatto with the same flesh color , i know that because my girl friend is trying to remove one she have , by the way its not me who asked her to remove it thou i dont like tattos but she had it before she met me so i dont mined it but she doesnt want it
2006-10-19 03:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Roy Keen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance doesn't like my tattoos either. They are a part of who i am and I see them as art. I always told my fiance love me or leave me and he's always stayed now i'm the one having doubts but no regrets when it comes to my tats.
2006-10-19 03:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by m_harvery 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband dosent like my tatto much either but it is my body not his. I get to decide what I want to do with it.
2006-10-19 03:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋