How can one by righteous, when to do so seems soooo difficult?

Question

I just feel so depleted with stuff. Keeping my integrity and spiritual center seems to create great conflict in my life. THing is that I happen to be the free rebellious though responsible type. I find myself being hindered by being connected to a woman that I truely love.
So I can hear it now. "If you really love her you wouldnt _______."
Well provided you know what it is like, we come from different families. The truth is that we do indeed marry into a person's family. So welcome to the real world I know.

I guess the times I feel conflict is where it concerns my wife. My wife's assoiciations touch my life, of course they do. But mostly i think its the women's world that I could do with out, not the physical, romance, but the marriage thing. In a way I feel like if I know what I know now I wouldnt have married. But maybe I still may have. Thing is I love my wife and feel torn. When I am honest with her about my feelings obviously its not easy to swallow.

just a rant.

Answer 1

to accept the lord in your heart and being righteous doesn't make any of us perfect. we will all live in the flesh one way or the other untill we are called home. however if you feel a true conviction in your heart for your wife you will be guided by the holy spirit to seek counsel as this is the wise decision. the conflict you are feeling is perfectly normal even for a christian because the devil loves to pick on jesus's children. pray about what you are feeling and turn it over to god, be patient and don't rush the results, the lord will handle it in his way and for his purpose.

Answer 2

I am sure there are many people who feel depleted with "stuff". Yeah, being righteous is difficult. Temptation tries your integrity and spirit. I like to think of myself as rebellious but responsible too. But that's because it is a stand to protect your individual freedom when you are in a two way relationship. Only thing is now you know that your personal decisions affect someone else and you keep that in mind. When you say you are hindered by a woman you truly love, are you talking about your wife? That is so true that we marry someone we marry their family too. People try to say, "no you just marry the person"...but the person has family and family is a huge part of the person. It is up to you, as an individual to allow yourself to accept the things that come with your wife. Although I too am married...I think it's overrated. There are times I feel like "rebelling" and doing something I know my partner would not appreciate. But I have to remember that even tho' I may feel like I should of never married, does not give me the right to completely disrespect our relationship, and my partner's feelings. Honesty, is always the best thing, I believe because it is bottom line a sign of respect. Even tho' your partner may not like what you are saying, at least you know in your heart that you shared your feelings as a sign of respecting the individual and relationship.

Answer 3

I lived with a insane group of family members attached to a 8 year marriage. For good reason(they were violent ) I left and never looked back. But if that isn't the case maybe a little distance, small trips together, and just call it us time to get space when needed. Little tweaks can take a marriage a long way, if that doesn't work, if you have to interact because of her wants to be there, see if she'll reward you with a blow____, to ease your uneasiness, lol. It does wonders.

Answer 4

To answer your question, you can be righteous without being perfect. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes that we have to be responsible for, accept the consequences of, and make amends to others who have been hurt by. We can only do our best. Remember: "To err is human."

If there are issues that you feel conflicted about, it helps to talk with a professional to work through them.