we've been married for almost 10 years now. and because of the nature of his work we only get to be together on weekends. i am hurt and disappointed because i want all the attention i can get from him while he is around. i am really jealous.
2006-10-18 19:47:10 · 13 answers · asked by budi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I just want you to know you are not alone in feeling this way. Every woman wants her man to be attracted to her, and lover her, more so than any other woman on the planet. It has nothing to do with physical shape or fitness. Any woman who says differently is lying to others and herself.
Honestly, I feel this way and I don't mean to be arrogant or flatter myself, but I know I look good. I know I look a lot better than most the women I see. I also notice I get head turns from most the other men I walk by. It would bother me, if I felt like my husbands eyes where "all over the place". I want to clarify also, I don't wear the "bare it all, look at me" clothing out of respect for other women and not wanting to make them feel uncomfortable. I explain all this, so you know, you are not crazy. It is not you. It is totally acceptable for you to have the feelings you do, and whether you were in the gym every day or not, your feelings would probably not change in this matter.
The truth is, he probably has other behaviors as well that make you question his interest in and loyalty to you. Just the fact that his work takes him away from you during most the week would be enough to make any woman wonder.
Try explaining your feelings and fears to him. Hopefully he will be understanding and try to be more attentive to you when you two are together, as well as when you are apart.
2006-10-18 20:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pervert! My bf used to do that especially when we're out but not anymore because I told him that it makes me uncomfortable. Sure there's nothing wrong with it, your marriage is still alive but how does it affect your inner feeling is the question; it's ok for some reasons but if it is habitual then it isn't good any more. I told him I don't like it, there must be certain rules in a relationship especially when you are married. Talk to your husband and if he respects you then he would avoid doing so.
2006-10-18 20:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is make the most of the time that you guys DO have together. If you're freaking out all the time when you finally get a chance to be alone with your husband, that makes the quality time pretty stressful for both parties. Relax, he's been there for 10 years -- chances are he's sticking around for the long haul! husbands can look.... as long as they don't touch ;)
2006-10-18 19:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by my2babygirls0405 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my husband I only see him on weekends but when I do boy! I'll just say I know he loves me.It wasn't always like that he would flirt with the women right in front of me when I would say something to him about it he just say I was imagine it.When we go to parties or business dinners he would leave me sitting there by myself and go talk to the girls from work and wonder why I was mad at him when we would get home.Needless to say one of the girls he worked with flirted back with him and off they went didn't matter the woman was 10 years older then him and ugly.When she wanted more then he was willing to give that is when he realized he made a big mistake and that is when he knew he loved me. that was 8 years ago I'll never forgive him for hurting me the way he did but what can I say, I love my husband and he shows me everyday his love by calling me every morning to wake me up then lunch,dinner and before we go to sleep. I hope you don't go through what I had to go through in order for your husband to find the love he once felt for you. I'll be honest with you it doesn't sound good.
2006-10-18 20:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Roving eyes are fine as long as that is the only thing that is roving. He's married not dead. Or as someone at the place I work says "he can look at the menu as long as he eats at home"
2006-10-18 19:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by katesname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's just it, they are roaming eyes. you shouldn't take this so negatively. my wife doesn't care, heck sometimes she points them out. she's not gay, it's just that she is comfortable with me just looking and looking is all im doing. im am so lucky to have a wife that isn't a bit jealous. it truly makes our lives better. we can actually focus on things that really matter and not little things like admiring someones beauty.
i too do not care if she notices some good looking guy and she steals a glance. let's face it there are better looking people out there than just ourselves. nothing wrong in admiring it.
2006-10-18 20:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by locowherto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In todays society if your man stops looking at other women then you'll have to start worrying if there is some homo activity going on.
2006-10-18 20:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together for 10 years, you must be doing something right.
2006-10-18 19:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by jadenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him want to look at you. When was the last time you went to a gym?
2006-10-18 19:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage rule is he can look but not touch , be happy take him to a lap dance get him horney
2006-10-18 19:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋