Hi all,
The scenario is like my parents had visited her home, talked with her dad & her regarding a marriage proposal. Her dad & my parents decided on that me & the girl should meet and find out for ourselves whether we go fine with each other. Her dad has given her mobile number to my dad suggesting me to talk to her first and then to decided when & where to meet. If we like each other then only the story will proceed further else it ends here. Now I want a help from you all. What should I talk to her when I call her first time so that I can create a good impression on phone? What are the things that I should talk about on phone before we decided on to meet somewhere physically? Please help me with your valuable advices....Only after hearing from you all I am gonna make the call to her.......Thanx all in advance...
2006-10-18 19:19:04 · 7 answers · asked by Lits 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly think about the sort of person u r and how u would like the girl to know u for....don't lie....
Start by introducing urself and then talking about what u do...then ask her a few questions and let her talk...listen and make sure ur tone of voice is calm and gentle....
Practise how to talk and smile while chatting on the phone to her....
Be relaxed and don't worry too much....she will be very nervous too.....
Find out things she likes and tell her about ur interests and dislikes....don't sound patronising and respect her.
Sometimes a sense of humour can work but be careful because a this can cause misunderstanding....so best to leave it for another time...
Don't do all the talking and let her talk but most likely she may be shy and not talk.....so think of some simple questions to ask to find out more about her.
good luck!
2006-10-19 05:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be calling her up for a meeting/date. So the topic of your phone conversation is already set. Keep it short, sweet, warm and polite.
I guess she already knows from her parents that she may be invited on the phone for an evening out with you. She also knows your parents. That's 50% of the job done.
1) Call her. Say Good morning/afternoon/evening (her name) as the case may be. Introduce yourself. If she doesn't recognise you instantly elaborate a little about your parents visiting her house earlier.
2) After introductions, ask her how she is. Then tell her that you know somethings about her and are interested in meeting her to get more familiar, on a certain date and at a certain time (please don't mention an unearthly hour). Ask her if the date and time is convenient for her. If yes, then fine. If no, ask her to suggest an alternate schedule. Fix it according to your mutual convenience.
3) Next suggest the venue. Think of a place which isn't crawling with people and isn't too sparsely populated either. A decent, respectable restaurant should be your ideal choice which affords privacy for talking and isn't uncomfortable for her. If its OK with her, good. Else ask her to suggest an alternative place and fix it mutually. Ask/tell her how she is going to arrive. You may offer her a lift. Don't insist if she refuses. If you haven't seen each other tell her how she would recognise you (the colour of your tie or things like that).
4) After everything is settled, finish by telling her that you would eagerly look forward to that date.
Keep your conversation short and crisp but warm and friendly. Don't blabber. Talking stupid might create the wrong impression.
BEST OF LUCK.
2006-10-19 02:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See as u are going to get married her so be very specific as per me..y ???? coz no body wants a break up..show her that u are truly caring and loving if she is good as per u and u become really interested in her then let her feel that u are caring and loving(must)coz most of th women need this..but u also need to remain ur personality ..and u have to also know that whether she is appropriate for u or not then go for a decission..if u need more help then u can ask me i must help u out..but talk honestly then u wont fail to get successful life...thanx friend..
2006-10-19 02:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by Nishant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems kinda awkward. just don't sound nervous and try to find something that both of you like. and if there's an awkward silence, start sayin how its kinda wierd how you guys got setup by your parents and make a joke about already having her number and you havent even met in person yet.
2006-10-19 02:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hayden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask her what some of her special hopes & dreams for the future are.
Example: I hope & dream to go to Venice, Italy some day.
2006-10-19 02:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what are some of the things she enjoys doing, ...ask her what types of movies she likes,, what kinds of foods,,, she likes,,helps you if there any thing you both like the same, can go have dinner and then later do some thing else you both enjoy,,,movie skating,, what ever.
2006-10-19 03:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by yellowstar61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like an arranged mariage of some sort ...?? I would keep it casual...tell her about yourself...likes ...dislikes and see where it goes.
2006-10-19 02:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋