Why do men abuse women is it because we are more confident?

Question

Here is a man who says is in love whith x , but he never misses an occasion to abuse her verbally of physically for all wrong reasons. What does he want to prove?

Answer 1

His superiority over her by making her inferior (and hiding his own inferiority)

Answer 2

Men abusing women is nothing to do with them being more confident.

Men who abuse women or vice versa, are more than likely venting their own frustrations at their own inadequacies, at a target that is submissive to them and they feel that they can control.

Physical or mental violence from either a man or a woman is not acceptable, but more than likely is carried out because the abuser themselves, have been or are being, mentally or physically abused themselves.

This is no excuse however, and anyone feeling the need to abuse others in this way should seek professional help.

It is not "BIG", to make someone live in fear of abuse.

A good relationship is based on love, trust and understanding, not fear and abuse!

Answer 3

He is actually insecure about himself and therefore threatened by her sexuality. He is trying to control her by attacking her self-esteem and controlling verbally and physically.

Remember, women abuse men quite often as well, and generally for the same reasons. In the case of men, it is only reported 2% of the time, for many reasons... embarrassment, children to care for, possible consequences to career and the fact the women are listened to more in these situations and can quite easily turn the tables on the guy, even if the woman is the abuser.

Answer 4

Men who abuse women have never learned a socially acceptable way to cope with anger and frustration, which is normal and common to all of us. Testosterone heightens aggression, so it's all the more important for us to bring up our sons in a way that they can let off steam without hurting others. Some are simply never taught that you cannot lay hands on another person in anger. Many of them are copying their fathers and on it goes down the weary generations leaving a trail of broken people and broken spirits in it's wake. You will never talk him out of this. the only permanent cure is the geographical cure - get away and stay away.

Answer 5

My guess is that he is so insecure and painfully aware of all of the failures in his life that he lashes out at the one person in his life that he thinks that he can control. The abuse is not about the victim, for this guy it just makes him feel like he is strong and in control. The sad thing is that he knows that he is weak and small in everything that counts... pride, humanity, courage, faith, and hope. This abused woman needs to get away from this man and fast. This violence should be reported so that each time he acts out it goes towards getting him put away.

Answer 6

not all men do that, only some men do. Frictions and conflicts happened in marriage as they do in all relationships and some men who are abused when they are small or are in family where domestic violence is a daily occurence never learned how to be in a loving and mutually caring relationship or how to sort out those frictions without resorting to violence. Thus when they grow up and are confronted with conflict and friction they resort to the only way they know of solving problem, violence. Also they tend to have low self esteem and thus to make up for their perceived shortcoming they resort to violence and beating as a form of power over women and a form of control which they used to boost their self esteem. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle that, fortunately, is decreasing due to better education and better psychological help. Finally society can exacerate this problem as traditionally men are suppose to be macho and resort to violence; in some part of the world society expected men to be violent towards their spouse and encourage domestic violence. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

absolutelly nothing. He does that because that is how he has learned to react. It does not mean he is trying to prove anything. Likely his parents were like that or some other parental/adult roll model, Hence the behaviour was learned. I do not condone verbal or physical abuse in a relationship. I Have never seen a time it was needed.

Answer 8

Some men love power. If they abuse the woman
one time and get away with it, he is sure to do it
again. In a small hospital I worked at part time
the er doctor told a group of us that there
was a lady that came in every week. Her boyfriend would
cut her on the arm, next week the leg ect. When the
doctor begged her to to have him arrested and get away
her reply was. "doctor the more he cuts me ,the greater
I love him"

Answer 9

Men who abuse women in any sense is what I like to call a *****-cat without the cat. He would never be that way to another man, therefore he picks on someone weaker than he is. He is trying to prove that he is a badass, but put a man in her place and he will get his *** kicked.

Answer 10

Men who abuse women were usually abused themselves when they were kids. As they had no control when they were being abused, they grew up with the need to exert their anger, power and control over someone else to gain self esteem and so the cycle of abuse continues.

Answer 11

It happens the other way too. Women abusing men. It's a control thing. One person wants to control the other.