We've been married for 3 years and after 1 year she started gaing a lot of weight and now the sex is terrible. I wasn't ready for marriage because i'm so attracted to other women and I want to have sex with just about every woman i come in contact with. How do I ask my wife to lets start swinging. that way were both involved.
2006-10-18 19:07:42 · 26 answers · asked by durdymalf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did you marry her if you weren't ready for marriage? Why swing? Why not get a divorce instead? And by the way, if she got cancer (instead of fat) and the sex declined, would you still want to swing?
I think she needs to find a good man who will love her and treat her right because sex is important in a marriage, but so is respect, love, admiration, loyalty and trust - and you dear have none of those qualities - she deserves better!
2006-10-18 19:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1
2016-05-07 20:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for a divorce when you ask her. If you no longer want her, instead of asking her about swinging, ask about a divorce. she deserves better, if her gaining weight turned you off, I do not see where you have suggested a health club or anything that would to help her lose weight, you just want her consent for you to have sex with others, that is disrespectful.
2006-10-18 19:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm............if you weren't ready for marriage then why did you get married?? If you don't want your wife anymore, just divorce her and get it over with. There is no point in trying to make her suffer and you shouldn't suffer anymore either. You are just wrong to try to make her start swinging, when it is your issue and not hers. Deal or leave.
2006-10-19 06:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex is terrible for you, it is probably terrible for her, too. She can feel your emotions. So why are you staying together. Give me one good reason to stay together. Move on, do your own thing. And it will hurt her, I'm sure, but at least she can move on. As others, I cannot understand why you married. I hope you find peace. (not piece)
2006-10-18 19:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are decent enough to ask your wife. I admire you for being honest to her and not just start an affair behind her back. There is no best way or best time to ask her. Be prepared for discussion-rejection. This will be an eye opener for her. I sense that you are craving for more intimacy and you are not getting it. Go for it and ask her. It might sizzle your sex life.
2006-10-18 19:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so attracted to other women, then why in the hell did you bother to get married. Ask her for a divorce and go and live your crazy life style.
2006-10-18 19:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what sort of a dichead are you, you should never have got married. Get out of the marriage, tell her what a peice of **** you really are and give her her freedom to find a man that is worthy of her. And who the hell would wanna sleep wit a slime ball like you
2006-10-18 19:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love and respect her as is, why stay in the relationship? Sleeping with other people isn't going to help or change the situation. She deserves better! She deserves to know the truth. She shouldn't have to compromise her morals and/or values just because you can't keep it in your pants!!!
2006-10-18 19:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If you aren't attracted to her, but attracted to other women, get out now. It is the best thing to do for both of you.
2006-10-18 19:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by so_silly_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋