i'm from the inner-city and wan't to change my life around. Must i get new friends?

Question

i will appreciate real advice, thanx!

Answer 1

It really depends on what kind of change you are trying to make: personal/social, economic, etc. I would say that you need to chose what objective you need to do to achieve first. By this I mean, decide what you want to do with your life and how you get there from where you are. Make this decision just about the functional steps you have to take to get there. Read up on people who did something similar or try to talk to people who doing whatever you want to do. Your friends will decide for themselves how to respond to you. If they're supportive, there's no reason to remove or replace them. If they're not supportive of the direction or way in which you're making the change then chances are they'll vaporize on their own.

Answer 2

Instead of giving an answer, I'm going to ask you something, since I don't know your friends...
If your friends won't let you grow in the way you wish to, you know, pull you back as you try to climb out, then do you think it's good to be around them still?
I believe you can keep your friends, but if they don't encourage your changing, then you may need to limit your time w/ them. Or if their ways will pull you backwards, then you will probably need to pull away from them. A biblical saying is that a little levening affects the whole loaf (paraphrased). Also, even a little hook in the mouth of a fish will still pull it in the opposite direction that it wishes to go.
Also though, while turning around, I'd suggest that whatever you decide to do w/ your current friends, you'll need to make new friends, too.
Just some things to think about.

Answer 3

It depends on whether your friends (regardless of where you are from) are causing havoc in your life or holding you back somehow--which is what it sounds like.

If that's truly the case, finding new friends who are more alike the life you seek would help you "change your life around."

Just don't lose yourself completely and become so out of touch that you forget your roots--know what I mean?

Answer 4

Not nessessarily but maybe you feel that you need too &/or want too.Seeing that you mentioned that,,it is probably so whatever the reason why.

Answer 5

If they are true friends they will support your decision and help you do what needs to be done. Try them - they may suprise you.

Answer 6

somebody that really cares...IT'S HARD TO FIND A REAL FRIEND NOWADAYS...anyway try to find ...no: pray to find somebody that can be a real friend! it's the best way.