what do you think?

Question

sometime when i feel pretty i believe other people think i am too but then sometimes i feel insecure about looks and then i start to believe that other people start to think i'm unattractive. Can you tell me if you think this could be true? why?

Answer 1

For the most part, you should be able to look in the mirror, know if you're looking good or not, and have a pretty good idea of what other people see.

No matter how attractive someone may be, there will always be someone who doesn't find them attractive, someone who only finds them average, and someone else who finds them really attractive.

You can't worry about whether other people find you pretty. You have to just do your best to look your best, and when you look in the mirror and think you're looking pretty go with that.

Answer 2

It is true. For two main reasons. One, nonverbal cues. Examples of this would be when we feel insecure, we're more likely to not make eye contact or limit eye contact. When we feel more secure or pretty, we're more likely to smile, make eye contact and even touch a person when we're talking to them. These actions send the message about us. That's also why our mothers told us dress for success.

The other reason is just a theory. I think it's possible we put off hormones, pheromones, or something that attracts or repels others based on how we feel during that time. I know when I feel particularly sexy I tend to attract more attention from the opposite sex than tthose times when I'm completely uninterested in sex.

Our mind is a powerful tool. That's why those 10 step programs like AA make the person look in a mirror and say positive things like "I like me." or "I'm a good person."

Answer 3

Absolutely true...You have a basic set of features that is you, your height ,your weight and looks that are all apart of you...But, Your psyche.."The way you percieve yourself to be", gives of energy to other people..the way you enter the room, the way you carry yourself, the way you smile...All of these variables change from day to day depending on sleep, happy and sadness, hormones and just the every day stuff that is apart of living as a human...On days when you ar ON...people notice that bounce and your smile and the positive energy you put out.there...On days when you are OFF, people also notice that lack of bounce ,energy and smile and the vibe is either neutral or even sometimes negative....

Answer 4

you are practically answering your own question.it's easy to understand it. you write when YOU feel pretty others think the same and the opposite. when WE feel good we reflect good as well. the truth is simple : that some people will always look at you anyway, anywhere. when you feel attractive, you think they look because of that. it's the same when you feel insecure you think they look because you feel insecure ! so, as you can see, it totally depends on how you feel inside and not what people see. confidence and self-esteem. words forgotten in an insecure world we live in , but you have to build them inside you so you don't underestimate yourself in anyway. best of luck...(everyone feels like this sometimes...)

Answer 5

Wanting to be "attractive" is universal, but its a self-defined perspective of what is "attractive" to an individual. Otherwise, here's a definition of vanity:

uses looks to get what they want, arrogant, self-absorbed, believes they can get what they want because of how they look, believes in success through appearances, cares about how they look to others, believes looking good is more important than comfort, feels best when others find them physically attractive, believes other people are envious of them, superficial, feels best when admired, attentive to appearance, spends a lot of time thinking about what is attractive, feels they are better looking than most people, competes for the spotlight, self promoting, feels both superior and defective, likes to manipulate others, seductive, likes to be popular, used to getting their way, reckless with money, wealth seeking, does things primarilly for the benefit of themself, does not like to be friends with people who are physically unattractive, tends to wear tight fitting clothing if female, desires more attention, assumes most people like them

Answer 6

i believe that if you feel pretty then you are pretty. dont worry about what others think because different people have different opinions. you have faith in your decisions about how you dress or fix your hair or what shoes you wear. who knows. maybe there is someone following your trends or style

Answer 7

I think you care too much about what other people think. Love yourself.