I work at a golf course snack shop. I love my job, I love the money and I love flirting with the men for tips. Now i never ever cross any lines with these men , im careful and considerate to there wives. My issue is this one married guy. He golfs with a group of men that come regularly and whome i have come to consider as friends. He has stepped over the line, he tells me he wants me and has even gone as far as to feel me up. I enjoy this mans company but he is married! If he wernt married i would jump his bones in a heart beat but he is and i wont. I just dont know what to do! I wont tell my boss,nor do i want to get him kicked off the golf course. How can i continue flirting with out leading him in the wrong direction?
2006-10-18 18:27:25 · 20 answers · asked by Ash-a-wee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With him, you can't. Some people have their pride and self respect and others just don't and he obviously doesn't.
2006-10-18 18:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was bound to happen you can't flirt with hundreds of different guys and not have this happen. You obviously not as good as you think you are with your flirting. If you have the hots for this guy he was able to read that from you. And stop with the nicey nice crap about caring about the wives it sounds really phony you should have taken lessons in flirting. You let him feel you up as you call it did you tell him to stop? did you say no> did you say anything at all? go ahead and get it out of your system and get laid by him you got the hots for him and he is ready to f*ck your brains out sounds like a good time to me.
2006-10-18 19:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what you want to get out of it at the end by flirting on and on..Do you want it to go somewhere? do you just want to have him and get him out of your system and thats it? Or is it a challange for you to see if you can have what you are not suppose to have?...You already know the answers then. Make your decision based on these....If you dont want to lead him to a wrong direction (whatever that is!?), come out open with him and tell him the truth about how you feel and how you want to play it.
2006-10-18 20:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't! you may find his attention flattering, but this is a married man and he obviously doesn't have any respect for himself, his wife, his marriage, and especially you! I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but all you are to him is his dirty little secret. if he respected you, he would keep his hands to himself,and his dirty ideas too.
first of all, start respecting yourself. you deserve better than to be treated this way, and put this guy in his place by tellilng him to leave you alone. there are no telling how many other young women he's done this same thing to.
2006-10-18 19:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Must Stop Flirting with this man!
It's leading him into 'Sin' and You into making a Big Mistake!
Why do You feel the Need to Flirt anyway?
Most women who flirt make it quite clear that there are Boundaries! Why aren't you using yours!??
2006-10-18 18:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just stop it, it's wrong, your hurting the man's wife even if she doesn't know you exist.if it weren't for my ex husbands girlfriend he might have gone to therapy and worked on making our marriage better. but because he had someone he wasn't interested in saving the marriage. what goes around comes around, and when you start a relationship at the expense of another's misery it will never work.
2006-10-18 23:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How 'bout just DON'T FLIRT!!
The more you flirt, the more he's gonna think it's okay for him to flirt back and feel you up. You're just leading him on.
Don't mess with this married man. And don't LET him mess with you.
You need to tell him straight up to stop this.
2006-10-18 18:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
draw the line...tell him whats appropriate and what isnt....but if that was me...id go a diffrent role because to deny your own feelings and impulses is to deny the very things that make you human, life isnt about if and's or buts its about the random stuff and doing something just because..dont look back on life and say i wish i would of done that, look back and say i did do that
2006-10-18 18:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by The Mastodon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't PERIOD. Leave it alone. Tell him you aren't into other womens men. You're not that kind of girl and would like to keep it professional.
2006-10-18 18:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by tiredinaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel and don't fall for the "I'll leave my wife" bit, men will say anything to get in your pants
2006-10-18 18:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be true to yourself that you dont like married men.
2006-10-18 18:34:19 · answer #11 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋