I was cheated on yrs. ago and can't seem to let it go. The realtionship I'm in now, I feel he's doing right by me, but I constantly question him. I don't know how to let go of my hurt and pain. Can someone help?
2006-10-18 18:21:45 · 13 answers · asked by carmen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The hardest thing in the world is beleiving a guy, knowing that one person who betrayed you said the exact same things but didn't mean them. You just... gotta learn to take risks (multiple times if need be). If he's worth it though...
2006-10-18 18:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep a exceptional form of them do and so do adult men and its a hrad area of learn how to believe lower back. Explaining this to your fiancee could help and probably clarify some erratic habit you're able to demonstrate. i know the place your coming from because it has happend to me interior the previous additionally and it is so not common to tug down those barriers. the appropriate piece of suggestion i'm going to offer you is remind your self every time you're feeling "humorous" approximately issues that she is with you, for you and the sensation will bypass. Its not common to believe yet trusting brings you nearer mutually and attempt to stop finding for information as im optimistic a exceptional form of harmless issues you do must be regarded upon in a distinctive easy if she become paranoid approximately you. on the tip of the day its all approximately morals and in case you share them with your considerable different and communicate approximately issues you cant bypass some distance incorrect. i can assert entire heartedly that i could never cheat on somebody its in simple terms not who i'm and characteristic seen the destruction it ought to reason. stable luck i wish all of it is going nicely for you the two.
2016-11-23 18:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation except I've been single for the past year since we split....cant seem to get that one foot in the door. To be totally honest, you can move on, but u will never trust the same. If u were hurt u will always remember that...at least ur eyes are open and you are aware what you need to work on.
2006-10-18 18:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by ebaijunky06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard thing to do. I 'm trying to get over it myself. I was in a very abusive relationship. I know the guy I'm with now would never even think of hurting me. But I still expect to get smacked around for no reason at all. We don't even argue about anything. But I still expect the abuse! It's crazy! I just keep reminding myself that abuse isn't normal. Maybe someday it will stick in my head.
Good luck with your new man. Don't question him too much. You just might make him leave. Keep the questions to yourself. Then remind yourself that your being silly.
2006-10-18 18:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know about it? is scary n super hard to trust the opposite sex even before u get into a relationship with them. take thing slow, like he's a friend. No i love u yet cause then u repeating the cycle again. talk to him, fill him in. if he's a great guy the open urself to him slowly allow urself to heal. Cause u didn't.
2006-10-18 18:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this from experience u just have to learn to let that go it is hard but eventually u will learn to have trust in that person
2006-10-18 18:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to work on this together. Be honest and ask yourself why you hanging on to the pain & misery of an old betrayed love? Then nail the coffin closed.
2006-10-18 18:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try accepting the fact that you now have a good man and what you had in the past is just that,the past.Don't ruin your future on the past.
2006-10-18 18:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can learn to trust by being shown (by the person you're with)>>> that he's trustworthy.
Trust is something that has to be earned by the person who wants to be trusted.
Talk to him about it & tell him that you need him to help you to be able to trust... it's not his fault that you have a hard time trusting... but you still need his help, in order to solve the problem.
Tell him that he can help you by assuring you & to reassure you>>> repeatedly that he can be trusted... it's exactly what you need.
2006-10-18 18:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to find someone to talk to a councelor or minister. Maybe you can even talk to your new bf tell him hoiw you feel tell him that you do not want to ruin the relationship with insecurities but you are scared maybe he can help you with this specially if he really likes you he will want to help you.
2006-10-18 18:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋