my last question was about my friend being afraid of being back in the hospital, but at the same time i have another friend stacy who is going through some really hard stuff right now too. i was supposed to talk to stacy tonight but my other friend told me about the hospital thing and she wasy crying so i had to talk to her about it. what am i supposed to do with two hurting friends who both need me? i feel like im all tapped out but people still need me
2006-10-18 18:09:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your friends are lucky to have you. you sound like the kind of friend everyone dreams of having in their lives so be proud of yourself for that.
And as far as what to do about being there for both friends, you're just going to have to tell them you'll be there for each one of them as much as you can, but that you're trying to take care of both of them, so you have to split up your time between the two.
And give yourself a break too. you have to have some rest and time for yourself. I'm sure your friends will understand.
you're obviously a very caring person and I wish you the best.
2006-10-18 18:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to balance it as best as you can. you are only one person. if the one with the hostpital thing got to you first, tend the her and calm her down to a managable point then help the other friend to a manageable point and then work through them bit by bit. you are one of the few good friends that people can find, sometimes it will wear you out, but be strong and the what you get out of it is far greater, 2 happy friends and knowing you helped them :D
2006-10-19 01:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them if they would like to go out and have some fun? I mean some people jus' need a break from life with thier best friend and in this case U! ask if they would like to go take a break from life with you? I mean U R thier fave? and it would be a good thing to get away from thier stress, it'll clear things up N thier minds, it'll let them breathe and think about thier next move they should do when they get back to real life.
2006-10-19 01:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing to do is the best you can and talk to them and say look i'll be here but i also have other problems to and just be there when you can if they are real friends then they will understand and forgive you!! just make sure you dont favor one over the other and they are your friends, their always gonna need you but there is only so much you can do before you will need a friend as well!! dont pressure yourself just be the best friend you can be!!
2006-10-19 01:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by babygyrl19832000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a good friend and they are lucky to have you. They both need your support right now and you need to be there for them, someday the tables could turn and they will be there for you.
2006-10-19 01:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong and in the end of the day reconnect with you. do something to take care of YOU. but you are their friend, so hang in there for them. they love you and you love them. you will be blessed for your kindness and generosity! take care.
2006-10-19 01:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋