My wife of 22 years I just found out she has been cheating on me with a black guy and she is pregnant. But, She wants me to forgive her and work things out. Now after finding out she pregnant new discoveries that she has been using drugs. and owes her black guy $32,000 dollars for drugs she got high with. she also told me she really wants me to help her cause she has aids. Should I take her back and help her or get rid of her ?
2006-10-18 18:02:26 · 17 answers · asked by Jo r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd get rid of the woman she nothing but a white hoe who does black for tricks she is not worth the time or effort. Like most drug queens that lowers herself to do black guys she not worth worrying about. You you might of loved her but she did you very wrong now its time to pay up. I'd boot that whore out and let the black guy take care of what he messed up. As for him he's not worth killing cause he is *** ger.
2006-10-18 18:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
First, what is in your mind that you are thinking? Everyone make mistake and whether is up to you whether you still love her? At this moment, you were be very very angry and heated up, but do sit down and think what make her do this behind your back? And why is she so high on sex? She maybe fallen in to the wrong hand by this black-man and may have put something in her drink to get her into drugs.
I can only said here, is you yourself whether you are still going to help her out of all this problem and expect her, cause, what she had done is already done and nothing can go back again, problem now is whether you still love her and is going to help her up or not? As this is the time she really need you to help her go through with the life she having now. To forgive and forget everything is in your own mind, you may choose only one of this. My apology if I have offended you here. The answer is still on yourself.
2006-10-19 01:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by shellman8888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need yahoo answers you need a therapist. Aids and having a kid is a bigger problem than you taking her back. She having a drug problem or dating a black guy is not big. Now the 32,000 you should work out a payment plan or just let him kick yours and her a-- that usually works for them. But if he does ---- her he be doing the world and you a favor. Dont be a sucker. This is not your problem. Butt out
2006-10-19 01:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by searchingforanswers? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. She broke her vows, and therefore you can let her go without guilt. Forgiveness will help both of you heal, but if she is that messed up you should probably be apart for awhile. She needs to stay away from drugs, but find a good doctor if she wants a healthy baby. A lot of OBs won't take new patients after they hit the 2nd trimester, and she will need special meds.
2006-10-19 01:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by sandcatsle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger is a very normal reaction. anybody who says they won't be angry after what happened is a bunch of hypocrites! if you think that you have been betrayed inspite of all the efforts you have given to your relationship, then it's obvious that you have to leave her. but if you know in your heart that you are also to blame for what happened and you made some errors that made her look for attention elsewhere, then maybe now is the time for redemption. if you really love her, you would accept what happened and deal with everything. give her a hand, i don't mean that you have to stay in the same house together or get back, people can't be blamed if they still love their spouse/partner even if they were deceived, but it doesn't mean that you have take it all in in one sitting, you get what i'm getting at?anyway, help her out and see how things go. it's totally up to you really. just think a thousand times before you take action alright?
2006-10-19 01:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be crazy man to even contemplate on taking her back. I think you just need to forget her and move on with your life. She is pregnant with the other guy, she is a drug addict and she has aids, how many more reasons do you need to get rid of her. I think you really loved her to think so much about her even at this stage. But move on my friend, you deserve someone way better than her.
2006-10-19 01:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U have other kids, just take them and get out of there. When it involves drugs + money, it always is bad news. Obviously Ur wife doesn't love U and Ur kids. Leave and start afresh somewhere far from there.
2006-10-19 01:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do i love her?
do i want her back?
can i really forgiver her?
these are the ? you need to ask yourself.
if you can yes to them then take her back.
if you can not say yes to them then you really need to think about maybe letting her go.
but i have to honestly say if this happened to me , i wouldn't take the person back.
2006-10-19 01:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST I WANT TO SAY THAT IS SO MESSED UP!!!!......FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU NEED TO GO GET YOURSELF TESTED FOR HIV....SINCE SHE SAID SHE HAS IT. THEN IN MY OPINION I WOULDN'T HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HER. YOU MEAN TO TELL ME YALL WAS TOGETHER FOR 22 YEARS AND SHE CHEATED AND IS PREGNANT. THAT IS REALLY BOLD. I MEAN I KNOW YOU LOVE HER AND WANT TO HELP HER...BUT LET THE GUY WHO CHILD SHE IS CARRYING HELP HER..YOU SHOULDN'T PUT YOURSELF THROUGH ANYMORE PAIN AND SUFFERING MESSING AROUND WITH HER.....BUT THIS IS MY OPINION YOU SHOULD REALLY FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
2006-10-19 01:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Cutey Cutie QT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her u can get better dont let her drag u under
2006-10-19 01:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋