he has been arrested for child support and violation of his probation which i made him to but not knowing it was a violation of his probation the bond for probation is set at 10,000 which is way to high i think and his child support is got backed up on accedient for 1,750 dollars he turned himself in to get it all figured out but... They want to take him to court on his probation so i dont know if i should wait its oct 30th or what I really have none of this money to get him out i work and pay my way threw school. I know some might say let him do it him self but if you have ever been in love its hard to leave someone sitting in jail! Thanks and i hope someone can help me!
2006-10-18 17:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by brandi_23sc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Brandi, It seems to me that child support does not get backed up "by accident". If he's not working and can't pay, that is not an accident. Also, you say that it's your fault that he violated his parole (parole for what crime?) but that you didn't know it was a violation. Well, he should have known. It is up to him to make sure he does what he is supposed to. It seems "nothing is ever HIS fault". If you don't want to be bailing him out forever, I would call it quits with this guy. I smell LOTS of trouble brewing in his future.
2006-10-18 18:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your dedication to this man? You are completly selfish. How could you be thinking about yourself right now? What do you mean you have to pay and put yourself threw school? Do you not know your responsibilies as a girlfriend? I think not. F school first things first. If this does not get threw to you then maybe this will. If he goes to prison then he will get three meals a day and a warm bed to sleep in with free excercise. And free medical attention and an education. Now because he did not pay child support his kid may have not gotten three meals a day and a warm bed and new toys plus a better education. I pitty the fool! NOT. You were not there when they made this kid this should not be your problem but since you want to but in then give up school save him and feed his kid otherwise let him rot in jail. You will be bailing him out again. Try stealing from your parents that ususally work. Just make sure to feed his seed.
2006-10-18 18:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can either come up with $1000 and bail him out on Bond, or you can come up with the entire 1750 and have the charges for Child Support dropped, then just deal with his probation violation. They will reduce the bail. There's not much else you can do. Unless you want to borrow the money from a well off friend, but that always causes tension between friends, trust me I know.
2006-10-18 18:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know you love him but you have to be realistic. You two aren't married and bettering yourself is your first priority. So, if you're paying your way through school continue to do so. You'll just have to support him emotionally. So, wait until Oct.30th and then if you truly are willing to put yourself out there for love then maybe you could get him a payday loan or possibly the two of you could come up with another plan. Good luck.
2006-10-18 18:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is in jail. he had a probation violation he went to court and got less then 30 days. if it just a violation he shouldn't get a lot of time but if he has any new charges he might get some time.it will take along time be for he get in trouble and they take he to court for the child support
2006-10-18 18:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't Break Him, you can for Aiding and Abed-ding a Fugitive, Ever Think About that.
My Advice You Hire a Good Attorney that Know the Judical System and Can Beat It too.
Just say that "My Brother is Innocent" You don't want to Jail, You want to get your Brother Out.
2006-10-18 18:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but if you don't have the money then he will have to sit til his hearing, he will probably be released. You could go around to all your friends and see if they could pitch in some money, it's a lot of money but you might be able to get it. If not just write and accept phone calls.
2006-10-18 18:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been in detention center because of the fact the 5th , he has been denied bail. he will stay in detention center till the courtroom company is over. This Friday is in all probability a preliminary listening to. might desire to be in detention center for yet another 6 weeks.
2016-10-02 10:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but don't take on another financial burden for yourself. Hope that he makes bond.
2006-10-18 18:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the money so just be there for him. Write him letters and visit if you can.
2006-10-18 18:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋