i'm lonely?

Question

im in college and so lonely. i was popular, outgoing, cheerleader in high school and now i dont have a single friend. i cant just join cliques, or hang out with people from my classes. what can i do?

Answer 1

Join a group or a club to start with to begin to know a variety of people. It will take some time, but your problem is really common and it will get better. Get involved with school related activities and at some point you will meet some great people, be patient.

Answer 2

Hey I kinda know how u feel I came to japan about a year ago with the navy…. You just have to be friendly and outgoing start conversations and be likeable im sure if you were popular before you can be that way again. Look into diff clubs or people you go to class with something will eventually click… [e-mail]

Answer 3

you need a good dose of self confidence! college isn't that different than high school. you just keep your head up and don't be scared of what you think other people are thinking about you.
sometimes you just have to go out on a limb and talk to someone even if you're scared to. some people will want to be friends, others won't, but I'd almost guarantee that if you step on up and make the first move to be friendly with a few people, they're going to be friendly right back, and you won't be lonely anymore. just give it a try o.k.?

Answer 4

I felt this exact same way when I came to college. What u need to do is join some student activities on campus and get to know the members. That is a great way of making friends. Also if you live in a dorm (and get along with your room mates) hang out with them and get to know some of their friends. That's how I made my friends and now I'm a senior with lots of friends.

Answer 5

There must be some school activities that you can join.

There are also classes that is not so serious about studying. Like PE classes, music classes or even dance classes. Those are the one that can help you connect to others.

Also, try going to library and when you see some classmates. Go up to them and start a friendship by start discussing homework. It is all just a start.

Answer 6

Start out small, ask a person in your class to hang out with you, next thing you know it they'll ask if you would like to hang out with thier friends. I know it isn't easy starting from scratch. You just got to get motivated that's all. Show some people what you'r made of. Show them that there's more to you then some space take'n up in a desk, show them that you got friendship to offer. start out small like I said, ask some small Q's or jus' go for the straight away chit chat about home work or how the day is. ^_^

Answer 7

well i am very lonely to i also am in college and my gf just dumped me but i have made a lot of friends down here you should go outside ask people what there names are and say hey do u want to hang out tonight. and start having fun be cool and play along meet some guys i to am lonely but there is only one person i want to fix that and it is krissi

Answer 8

Hi Mackenzie,
Being lonely is rough.

I think the first step is to learn to enjoy yourself -- alone! Not needing others to fulfill your immediate needs nor to define yourself.
Then when you go into the world, you are armed and ready with self-confidence.

Answer 9

Have you tried going to school dances?? thats a good way to meet people, also you might want to try church or church activities... You can always try the creepy easy way of the internet and find people on myspace and connect..

Answer 10

if you had so many friends before why is it so hard now to just go up to people and say hey your in my blah class...do you wanna hang out sometime..its not that hard.