Every time she says something like "i don't want to say goodnight", or something like that he gives me a threatening look and tells me I tell her to be that way. Tonight he got angry at her because of that and slammed the door in her face (she just turned 3).
2006-10-18 16:59:47 · 5 answers · asked by texascomet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No.....toddlers test every nerve in your body. Sounds like your husband has no clue how to act with children, let alone a 3 year old. How horrible that he slammed the door in her face. Kids can sense people's attitude and mimic bad behaviours. He needs to change his attitude, treat her better if he wants her to grow up in a healthy way. The example he's giving is unhealthy. Maybe suggest taking a parenting class with him, or buy a book that dicusses a fathers role in children's lives. Either way, he needs to change.
2006-10-18 17:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting down with him and explaining to him that you are not telling her to say these things. And that it may be a stage that she's going through? Is he away from the home alot? If he's away from the home a lot she may have some anger against him especially if she has always been close to him. I know that when my husband is not around my daughter is a pain in the butt and she's only 2. But when daddy comes home she's right up his butt. And sometimes when he asks for a hug or a kiss she tells him no. But he doesn't take that out on me. He just calls her a stinker and gives her hugs and kisses anway and she ends up laughing. It sounds to me like he's not interacting with her as much as he should be.
2006-10-19 00:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by cryssyhenry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First never took it personal. Have four children. My children would never slam door in face no matter what age. They knew the rules and the punishment if rules were not followed. Disrespect fullness was not allowed in our house by anyone including the parents.
As for your husband and I would say you to. You need to be the adults and the three year old needs to be controlled. Parenting is not easy but if you donut set rules and stick to it whey she is 15 it wont be a door she slams.
2006-10-19 06:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call something like that being naughty.... its just being moody. He needs to grow up and stop blaming a 3 year old for acting like a 3 year old. For him to blame you, and think you're teaching her to be that way is ridiculous and uncalled for, and I wouldn't put up with it.
My daughter just turned 4. And she can be the same. She's home with me all day and he works 14 to 18 hours a day as a truck driver. Naturally her bond is stronger with me and it hurts him when she doesn't want him to touch her, or when she prefers me. But thats just life and he doesn't blame me for it. She won't talk to him on the phone most of the time, and she usually comes to me if she's hurt, upset, or just wants to cuddle.
But she seems to know when the weekend is here... cause most of the weekend is Daddy time... and she usually prefers him then. Your husband needs to back off, stop getting mad over trivial things, be sweet to her, and she'll come to him.... if he can't do that.... he's not much of a father.
2006-10-19 00:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds more immature than the three year old. Actually, I have read that fathers are often jealous of their own children as mom gives more attention to the child than she does to him. Remember the attention he received before the baby came along? You had more time for him.
2006-10-19 00:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋