I would love to tell people that my daughter attends Harvard or the likes. She said she wants to attend an ordinary state school!! Can you believe it? Even though her grades are superb, she tells me she doesn't want to attend an ivy league because she doesn't want to be surrounded by "spoiled trust fund kids," as she puts it. I don't care who she's surrounded by. My husband and I can afford it, and we want her to go. So how can I persuade her?
2006-10-18 16:51:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You could try telling her that not everyone at Ivy League Schools are spoiled. That not everyone has the chance to go to an Ivy League School. If I had the money I would send my kids to an Ivy vs. a State & I know they would love to go. Also, thats probally not her only reason for not wanting to go, so you may want to ask her if theres any other reasons.
2006-10-18 17:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by sgwadams 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't understand why you want to send her someplace that she does not want to go. Just so that you can say she goes there is pretty lame, grow up Mom.
My own personal feeling on it...Ok, Let's say theoretically that all the kids who are in the Freshmen class at Yale graduated #1 in their class. Do you realize that if there are 1000 kids in that glass, an A student will have to be 1000/1000 in that class, not a good place to be, but that same kid maybe at the top of their class in a different school.
I read one time that the ivy league schools have a high suicide rate.
If you still are hell bent on your daughter going to an ivy league school, tell her she can make her own decision, but insist that she go on a tour of some of these schools and talk to the students and faculty at several schools before she makes her choice.
2006-10-18 17:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
College is a lifestyle choice, not just an academic choice. You could strike a deal with her that she can go wherever she wants as long as she visits Harvard, but if her visit doesn't do it, don't push. I went to a high ranking private institution and I was MISERABLE. The spoiled trust fund kids are there. And they have the personality of cardboard. I actually had a friend there tell me she was proud of me for accomplishing so much on my "limited means." Two years out of college, I do not talk to one person I knew then. Keep your child's happiness in mind and realize that ranking aren't everything. This choice will affect EVERY part of your child's life.
2006-10-18 23:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by misysu2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're so vain, I bet you think this song is about you....
Honestly, you should be down on your knees thanking whatever higher power you believe in (or your own great wisdom in rearing children!) that you have raised a fine, independent, mature, reasonable, socially aware and fiscally responsible young woman.
I'm sure your daughter has other very good reasons for wanting to go to a different school. I'm not going to go into the arguments about cost vs. reward ratios, grade inflation, atmosphere, or social conscience that I'm sure other responders will address adequately. I believe that here it is time to realize your "bragging rights" are far less important than your daughter actually going to college, being excited about going to college, and starting to pursue the dreams you've raised her to dream.
Let her go! You want the right to be able to brag your daughter "made the cut." I'm sure this has been a dream you've held for her your entire life. Its time to recognize that the dream is over her life, not yours, and gently fold it up and put it away in the attic. I could use a harsher statement, but I do realize watching dreams die is difficult. It sounds like your daughter is making well-informed and rational decisions, so you should just let her start running her own life, and sit back and enjoy the ride! Dreams are just that, dreams, but reality is almost always better if you accept it. If you love and treasure your daughter, you will always find something that will make you proud about her, that you'll want to share with your friends.
2006-10-18 18:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tomteboda 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take the SATs, in case you get a minimum of 1500 (or 2250 on the recent equipment, call me quaint yet I favor the 1600 aspect equipment), then you actually have a unprecedented probability. also did you already know someone who can reccomend you to get in? That helps. also, wish you do not concepts the chilly northeastern winters, or you would no longer like the Ivy League colleges that a lot.
2016-10-16 05:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by hinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really has to be her decision, if it's your idea and she ends up hating it she will just end up bringing it all back on you. Maybe tell her you'd like her to apply just in case. Maybe go and visit a school, get an interview with someone in the program she's interested in, take some tours, meet some people....but ultimately its up to her because she has to want to do it. And if a state school has a program she really wants to do it may be more beneficial for her to attend a state school....
2006-10-18 17:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by beckerton12 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you can't
it is a shame the parents are so vain, thank god the daughter turned out with a straight head on her shoulder.
Maybe she can go to oxford and stay away from her parents. Be lucky she wants to attend college.
2006-10-18 17:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by buddhaboy 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
lady, shut up. judging from all your posts u seem like a snobby lady. who cares what your friends will think if your daughter attends a state school!
2006-10-18 17:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe the thought of being around children with spoiled parents is unappealing.
2006-10-18 17:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by more than a hat rack 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋