I am 22 and he is middle of 30’s. I have known him for 4 month. He is very mature and kind guy, I have always dreamed of. I did not know when this relationship started, he is still regally married because of his children and he asked me to wait for 2 years, until his first child gets 12 year-old. He also told me that he married his wife, because of pregnant and he had to be responsible for that. Yes, he is hopelessly in love with me, however, I sometimes doubt he really would divorce within two years. I also have problem that he always told me what he wants to do, such as paying cell phone bill or basically financial support for me, since, I am college student and he is layer. He is very sweet and I am always enjoy the moment with him, however, sometimes, I can not see his promises would be kept. I need to know, I should trust him or not.
2006-10-18
16:41:55
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I am in almost the same exact situation. Me and my beau work together, that is how we met. He has been married for 12 years, and he has three children. His ex is a psycho who is trying to ruin my life. We both love each other very much, and we know that we would like to get married. We both, even though he already has 3 children, would like to have our own children as well. Though it gets very upsetting, the situation, sometimes its even disparing, but if you both really do love each other, you will realize that its worth waiting. If you ever really love someone, its always worth waiting for. I am 23, and he is 36. I hope and pray that for me, I will know that there was really only one person in this whole world meant for me. And I believe very strongly that my Michael is the only one for me:) I also know first hand, the more pressure you put on him, the more you get let down. Sometimes I feel that his promises arent being kept either, but you have to know that he really does care about you ... Just remember that! Good luck to you! and if you ever need to talk, please talk to me. I know exactly what your going through... MY aol sn is luckysgrgirl23... hit me up on there:)
2006-10-19 17:26:25
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answered by happily_smilin 1
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Do not trust him! I promise he is not getting divorced! He says wait two years! He is just "having fun with a cute little 22 year old". All married men say they are getting divorced when they are having an affair. He wants his to have his cake and eat it too! Even though you are not married, you are still committing adultry, and that is a sin! I am not preaching to you, I just want you to know there are other "single" men out there that can make you feel just like he does. Find a 30 something year old single guy.
2006-10-18 17:15:24
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answered by Stephanie 2
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okay,u have only known this guy for 4 months.how do u know that hes not just wanting sex or just to have fun when he gets bored with his wife.if this man wanted a divorce he would of at least left his wife.sounds to me like hes telling u only what u want to hear.is there any more women that hes love up to when his wife isnt around?r they still living togher?u need to not wait on no man if he loves u then he will step up and tell his wife that hes in love w/another women.ive been married 4 yrs.and my husband done the same thing buut he wont sighn for our divorce,so girl be careful and dont fall to hard.some guys just need more than one women.i think while hes married and if hes still living at home with her u need to leave him a lone.wives can get mean when there protecting their family.for all u know hes probably telling her something totally differernt.like ur not leaving him alone.he could pay childsupport.
2006-10-18 18:32:22
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answered by angel girl 1
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Yes, wait! Wait! Wait!
Don't screw this up. Wait!
Sounds like a sweet-talking lawyer who knows how to make out with young college students.
This guy is going to break your heart BIG TIME! Hopelessly in love! No way! Actions speak louder than words!
He's lying just so he can get young sex.
You better wake up honey.
2006-10-18 17:03:25
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answered by seeitmiway32 5
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Should you trust a cheating lawyer? run
Since he is supporting you it might be difficult to leave the relationship, but he's never going to leave his family. Meanwhile you're not meeting other people and enjoying your college years. Find a way to support yourself & get on with your life. In two years if he is single, let him look you up. Until then - live!
2006-10-18 16:53:01
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answered by Arikbo 2
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Back up for a second.... why does he have to wait until his child is 12 years old??? Second of all, if he knows you won't wait for him and he really wants to be with you then he will go ahead and divorce once he sees you going on without him. (Everything you just said... I have saw in all movies that play on Lifetime Channel.) Trust me you don't want to know how they turn out.
Even if he left his wife... wouldn't you feel the least bit guilty that he broke up a marriage and family to be with you?
I wouldn't trust him. You are a side dish to him. You are gullible and he knows this... "Lawyer". Yeah they can sniff out gullible people.
Girl, dont waste the best years of your life waiting for him. Have fun and enjoy them. If you dont, no one can give them back to you.
2006-10-18 16:48:36
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answered by Keith Perry 6
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He sounds like he will make the perfect husband for you. He cheats on his wife, and he promises to divorce her in the future - as soon as his children get old enough. What do you think this guy will do if you marry him? He has shown you what to expect from him. When he gets tired of you he simply dumps you and finds someone younger.
2006-10-18 16:49:51
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answered by physandchemteach 7
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Why would you want to wait 2 years for a man to leave his wife? If he is so in love with you, why dosen't he leave her now? Being responsible for a child does not mean that you have to be irresponsible in other ways(cheating on his wife) As far as him paying for your bills, sounds to me like he thinks he can pay for your love. Kick his butt to the curve. Just because his wife trusts him, dosen't mean you should.
2006-10-18 16:57:29
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answered by rollergirl 2
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i see it like this. he wants to have u as a backup plan. he wanna keep u and his wife, family. two years thats a long time and everything can happen. there is no future if u always gonna be the second one. do u wanna be always the second one?? because later on he will still have his family, his kids and everything. its not gonna be easy. if u dont wanna get hurt u should do something to stop it....its better now than later...it will just hurt more...
2006-10-18 17:11:34
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answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3
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This is the oldest trap there is.He wont leave his wife.How many married men with children have you ever heard of leaving their wives for the college aged g/f????Get real sweetie he has you as a mistress and wants to take care of you as such.You and millions of girls like you fall for this crap everyday.Get away and find someone who isnt married.
2006-10-18 17:07:23
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answered by Red 2
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