Is your life any worse than this? Doubt it....................................................................

Question

Hm let's see,
i'm 19
my parents are divorced, family is in debt
i work a crappy job at McDs..i guess it's not too bad
i attend college, although i have NO friends there, and i have an undecided major (can someone please give me some recommendations)
i barely afforded this semester, no idea how I will next semester
i talk to this girl at college a lot (well, sometimes) and I reallly like her, but she has a b/f....doubt she would go for me anyhow, she's beautiful
i live at home still....missed out on the college experience
broke up with my year and half g/f, we still talk but it's tough, she went to another guy, he kicked her to the curb, now she wants me back..but i wanna explore
i'm not happy with how i look, girls never notice me while my brother has like, no problem. weird.
i have pale skin and i need to go tanning, but hard to find time
hard to find time to do ANYTHING and even if i did have time, i have like 0 friends to do stuff with
i could write more, but ran out of characters.

Answer 1

As far as college is concerned, go to a career counselor and they might give you an aptitude test to determine what your interests are (mine was in history; an all-purpose major).

Also apply for grants and scholarships. They're out there, trust me.

When you do find the time to do stuff, join clubs and organizations. Don't sit around and mope, feeling sorry for yourself.

Answer 2

Stop whining you're 19! You're life is exactly where it's supposed to be... In college, with a menial job, focusing on school... NO ONE can afford college at 19 unless they're a trust fund baby, EVERYONE feels alone and lonely... College is a HUGE change compared to how you've been living your life for the past 18 years and the last thing you need to be worrying about is a girl... Put your nose back in the book, figure out what you're passionate about and major in it... Chances are you're not going to end up working in that field anyway so it doesn't matter!

Sheesh...

By the way... I had it WAY harder than you @ 19 (try Dad dies of lung cancer that summer, brother is incarcerated for attempted murder, sister has a nervous breakdown, attending a very strict christian school when I'm not really a christian, also can't pay the 40K a year tuition, deeply in debt due to the financial strains of having to care for my father during his final months- he had no other family and was so incapacitated that at 18 I was made his executor and POA, absentee/abusive mother and suffering from severe chronic depression, all while holding down a FT job at... dun dun dun dah TARGET!) Pull your head out your ***... You're a good kid and you'll do fine. Despite all the crap I had to deal with at 19 here I am 7 years later, happily married, gainfully employed, and generaly having a great life... Just remember you're only 19! Things do and will change for you!

Keep your head up Skippy!

Answer 3

Your position is not even close to being the worst. But regardless, your character shines in the way you handle situations that you are in. If you feel sorry for yourself, then you'll perpetuate this attitude, and your situation will get worse. If you decide that your whole family history, and your situation is based upon a couple of less than optimal decisions, then you can start activating yourself and doing something about it. The fact that you will do something about it will give you great confidence which you an further fuel by being even more focused. Go to your college counselor, ask about the schools career services. I don't see any reason why a person who can go to college needs to work at McDonald's, unless he's a manager. Look for other opportunities. I think your whole problem is self esteem related.


Good Luck

Answer 4

Get some self esteem! Goodness, your life is not all that bad, many people have gone through the divorce of their parents. And as far as debt...most of America is in debt up to their eyeballs.
If you are concerned about paying for college look into loans, grants and scholarships, your financial aid officer and your counselor can help you with all of that.
There are a lot of good jobs out there, see if you can get one on campus, at the library or in an office...they pay pretty well and you can possibly get a discount on your tuition.
Get a college education and the girls will come! Smart guys are sexy...don't let anyone tell you different!
As far as majors go, most students don't pick a major until they are at the end of their sophomore year, take lots of varying classes and pick the ones you like....they also have aptitude tests that can tell you what kinds of jobs you may be suited for, talk to your advisor.
Get some confidence and make a friend, it only takes one and you will meet more! Talk to someone in your class, get to know them and hang out.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Ok well the first step is to think positive of yourself. I think yo uare being responsible by attending college and having a full time job. If you don't like your job find another better job, you have customer service experience so go find a job where you don't have to work as hard and you can make more money!

Don't worry about your looks as long as you have a good outlook onlife and a positive attitude that should win over a lot of girls and friends.

Answer 6

Damn... I'm sorry.. But this is my little list:
My parent's are getting a divorce
I don't have any friends what-so-ever
My brother has a seizure disorder and he almost died on march 30th. He has a seizure at least once a year. He has aspergers syndrome.
My cousin died a day after St. Patrick's day this year... 3 days after i had finally met him. It's weird cause his name is Patrick.
Something bad happens almost always on my birthday or around my birthday.
Im incredibly pale and i can't get a tan even if i tried.
I have like no upper body strength.
I sun burn easily.
I probably have depression.
My closest grandma died in 04 who i loved dearly.
My other grandma isn't doing well. She has luey bodies disease ( i think that's how to spell it)
I don't have friends 'cause i live in a small town and there's no one with really any similar interest in the things i like.

So...There ya go... Sorry you're having troubles.

Answer 7

You know, I don't think that my life is worse than this. But I don't really agree with comparing one's life to another. Everyone's situation is different, and you just gotta look at how many different ways your life is so Blessed, rather than only focusing on the negatives. You work with people, right? Try meeting people at McDonalds...probably not the best way but still...And I would suggest that since youre at college, there must be at least 100 other people there, try to keep your chin up and get to know some people. Don't be afraid to open up to people and have some fun! You can't let the bad things in life stop you, or you'll never be here for the good things. So I know I just went on and on, whatever. Lol, if you ever wanna talk my sn is on my yahoo. Good Luck! And I hope you feel better :] You have so much to offer this world, and this world to you as well.

Answer 8

Don't give up on yourself. That's the most tragic thing in the world to do. You are capable of doing better for yourself. Listen to some of the advice given here except the gay boyfriend. Go get grants. I did to go to collage. I also went on work study. I worked at Micky D's for a short time. I got married right out of college but you can find a girl to love somewhere when the time is right. Polish up your armor knight and get back in the ring!

Answer 9

You need a new lease on life. You are way to young to sound so old and depressed. Make time for things that will life your spirts and make you feel better about yourself. You're not ready for a g/f if you don't have the time to work on yourself first. You can't give yourself to others, wether a friend or a g/f if there is nothing to give. Decide what kind of person you want to be and be that person. You want friends, be friendly, but be yourself. The self that you like, not the self that you don't seem to like. Decide what you want, and go for it. Only you can make you happy.

Answer 10

Gimme a break, when I was 19, I was still living at home with my single, alcoholic, paranoid-schizophrenic mother. We were on welfare and I was working my way through college and supporting my mom and my 2 younger sisters while dealing with mom's frequent suicide attempts and her extended stays in the mental hospital. I ended up happily married, a brilliant 14 year old daughter and have been teaching handicapped kids now for 25 years. It may seem bad now, but it could always be worse, dear, give it a few years and stay in college. A career helping others will definitely help you with the memories of bad times now in your youth. Never dwell on the past, always look forward.

Answer 11

Your life is okay. You're in no danger of losing your place to live, you've got family (if you don't have friends) and you're just starting out in life which is a little scary so you're apprehensive.

But hey, we all start somewhere! Take up knitting. There are many, many girls who would love to show you how to do it and share stitches with you (and it is the latest cool thing for a guy to do) and at least one of those girls will go out with you. You can find peace and harmony in making the stitches, and your mind will free associate and get creative on your day-to-day existence.