What do you do when your spouse is not speaking to you?

Answer 1

Read a book called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. You may not be speaking your spouses love language. This book changed my marraige and now I am eternally greatful.

Answer 2

Since you two are married you two should be able to communicate on a high level, simply ask her before bed or at the dinner table if there is something bothering her or has there been something on her mind that has been distracting her lately? Most importantly, whatever you do. You assure her whatever the problem might be, she's got all of your support.

How to be and Understanding Spouse:
1. Be tolerant! This condition may be new to both of you. It will change both of your lives, but it does not END your lives. You'll need to get comfortable talking about diarrhea and stool -- and even better, you may learn to laugh about it!
2. Educate yourself. Any condition having to do with farts and poop isn't likely to be something you read about every day (unless it's a joke on a late night show). In this rare instance, the Internet is probably a good place to start.
3. Educate others. Unthinking relatives and friends can make very hurtful statements like "it's all in your head." Especially with digestive issues, there's a lot of theory. Be ready to educate some folks, and for the rest, plan how to avoid talking to them about that subject.
4. Learn to hold it. Your spouse will use the bathroom. A lot. You and your family needs to be understanding about your spouse's situation. Sometimes that means finding another bathroom. Sometimes that means getting out of the bathroom quickly. Sometimes that means you just hold it.
5. Be the press person. That is, it's sometimes difficult for your spouse to explain to people why she or he must use the bathroom immediately. If she's a woman, this makes life easier. If he's a man, it's not so easy. But if it comes from you, it spares your spouse some embarrassment.
6. Make sure everyone knows about your spouse's diet. You don't even have to explain this one -- blame it on allergies. When family events are scheduled, be sure your spouse's special diet is taken into account.
7. Conversely, choose restaurants based on your spouse's diet. This may mean no Mexican or Indian food. When it comes to restaurants, don't put the burden on your spouse.
8. Know your doctors. Your spouse may often be medicated or otherwise unable to speak him- or herself. So you need to be aware of the issues, be in contact with the doctors, and have all the emergency medical numbers on hand at all times.
9. Plan everything. Your spouse is going to need access to bathrooms. This means no long trips on deserted roads. It means getting a seat next to the toilet on buses and planes. It means knowing the whereabouts of the rest rooms BEFORE you go shopping in a mall. And if you can't get to a rest room fast enough...
10. Be sure to have a spare change of clothes for your spouse.

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Answer 3

The silent treatment is a manipulative move. Just go about your normal business. Be kind to your spouse and don't return the silence.

Answer 4

Let him have his space, respect the distance and re-try communicating with in a respectable cool off period.

If the situation was sever enough to cause tension, then the best suggestion would be marriage counseling or some type of specialist

Answer 5

Turn it into a game. Act like he doesn't exist. Do really strange things that you wouldn't normally do when he's there. Walk around the house naked. Play music that he hates really loudly. Leave the bathroom door open when you use it.. All the weird behaviour will distract him and maybe make him forget why he was mad at you in the first place.

Answer 6

That depends...........are you a man or a woman?If a man is not speaking to you, you should leave him alone for a while to cool off.You probably did or said something that he feels was disrespectful of him.However if it is a woman that is not speaking then you should push the issue.Listen to what she has to say.apologize and ask her specifically what one thing you can do in the next week to fix the problem.whatever she answers then lovingly do it.Good Luck!

Answer 7

Well first of all start out by enjoying the peace and quiet and not having to listen to him ***** about anything.. but take advantage of it because they can't stand to be quiet for long. He will be back to talking in no time at all..
Just ignore him he will need to say something pretty soon and will have to break the silence pretty soon.. they always need something..
enjoy girl.. smile to yourself because he is only torchering himself not talking..

Answer 8

Have you ever heard the saying "silence is golden" Just wait a few years and you will know what I mean...No really, sometimes a person just doesn't really know what to say in a situation or can't find the words, give them time, this to shell pass.

Answer 9

Be more specific hun. Did you all have a fight before he stopped speaking? If you can give more details then I can give you a better detailed answer.

P.S. I just didn't want you to take advice wrong with out all the facts. :)

Answer 10

I hate it when my husband does that to me. He disconnects and I try to talk. I've learned over the 10 years that we've been married that I leaving him alone until he comes around is the best thing to do. If you try and make him talk he just gets angry. Find something to busy yourself with and then he'll give up the silent treatment.