People used to get married and stayed married trough thick and thin!!! now these days when there is just a little trouble they just leave each other, like what's up with that! Time's haven't changed people and society has!!
2006-10-18 16:04:29 · 13 answers · asked by sb photo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Totally agree....society has changed into a "please me right now, make me happy right now" attitude. Immediate gratification instead of looking at things long term.
2006-10-18 16:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by chnchita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce was once considered taboo. Divorcing carried a sense of shame, but it no longer holds that position in our society. People have become self-centered and selfish and expect - even demand - that everything and everyone cater to their desires. If a spouse "fails" to live up to the other's selfish expectations, the marriage partner feels compelled to find someone else who will (and that person will fail as well because no one is perfect). Also, people do not understand what love really is. Most believe love is a feeling. When the feeling is gone, people believe this means the relationship is over. Love is an action. It means doing what is best for the other person, and that includes having an attitude of forgiveness and patience. When a couple works through the difficult times, their relationship grows stronger - not weaker.
2006-10-18 23:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by The_Answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a fast paced society where people dispose of things all the time. Why make it work when there are better faster options out there for you. I am married a year and there are times I have wondered "Can or will we make it?" My parents are together 33 years....I am surrounded by good examples. In this day and age I would like to think that with all that could go wrong in the world with war and terrorism, that having a long lasting loving relationship would be essential for your sanity.
2006-10-19 00:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no social consequences for divorce the way there used to be. You used to be a leper if you were divorced, now it's common for unmarried people to live together, women to have babies before marriage (usually because they're not ready to commit to their partners - Go figure, they're just bonded forever with a child now - never could figure out the logic there), and the "life too short to be unhappy" line. Who in the hell is happy all the time?
I'm not saying divorce is never a good solution. Never stay in an abusive relationship - physical or emotional. But people are too quick to give up now a days. It's sad really.
2006-10-18 23:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, the "Good Ole Days" weren't always that good! Even today we have many people who actually stay married for life. Statistically speaking, the number of people who don't really hasn't changed that much as marriage breakdown has been with us since mankind first took life mates. Unfortunately, it wasn't until women started having rights could they get away from abusive relationships through legal means. If two people can't live together then there was something wrong with the relationship before the vows were taken.
2006-10-18 23:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by redcoat7121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They must be unhappy nothing they do works, or they are in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship and heck life is to short to be miserable everyday...Some people get married for the wrong reasons and never should have been married in the first place. I think some just like the idea of getting married and just take whats in front of them and it doesn't work...To be able to live with someone forever takes a lot of work, communication, trust and compromise...Most people are not willing to give the effort....
2006-10-18 23:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you have a "throw-away" society like we have. We have become so self-centered that we think only of our own pleasure - not the big picture.
In the past people married and stayed married. Maybe they were not always happy, but their children grew up in a secure family environment. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins were nearby and you always felt that you "belonged" there.
Now we have little ties to other people. Our parents have split and remarried (giving us step-siblings) then they split and marry again. Our extended families have stretched the boundaries of descriptive words.
It's no wonder that people don't feel connected anymore. I read a survey that showed people felt they had more friends on-line than they did in the real world.
2006-10-18 23:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right there.......it is so much easier to leave someone now a days and everyone thinks that is the answer......well I have been with my husband for 17 years and boy have we had our share of up and downs but that is what it is all about.....
2006-10-18 23:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could not agree with you more!!! People nowadays just ignore the fact that they "solemnly swear" to "love, honor, & cherish" their partners "till death do you part". When life gets tough people bail out rather than try to mend the problem.
2006-10-18 23:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Vet_Techie_Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because nowadays, we live in a disposable society and it has become too easy and convenient to get a divorce.
2006-10-18 23:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋