Why do so many young/unmarried girls look for advice on?

Question

how to become pregnant? And "could I be pregnant?".
First off- don't they teach some pretty good sex education these days-so that any young girl who thinks she may be pregnant would know how to go about determining if she is pregnant (geez- we had home pregnancy test back in my "old" days and we all could figure that much out).
Also, why do so many girls still want to waste thier lives away TRYING to have children too young?

Answer 1

They teach abstinence in schools now, they teach vary little on how to protect oneself from getting pregnant because they think that if a girl knows she has options in contraception then she would feel as though she could have sex and it would be okay.

It's crazy how little is allowed to be taught these days, parents say "leave it up to us" and then they are too embarrassed to have a real conversation with their children. Look at some of the questions on this site like, "Can I get pregnant on my period" or "He pulled out before he came, I can't be pregnant can I" I saw one guy state that you cannot get AIDS from heterosexual sex, it is only transmitted through anal sex and needles....kids these days are clueless about their bodies and what happens to them!

As for the girls getting pregnant to soon, a lot of girls feel unloved because they come from unloving homes and they think a baby will make it all better. They often believe that welfare will pay their way, or that it is not that hard to raise a kid! So many teens are misguided, it's sad!

Sorry, I felt the need to rant.

Answer 2

Well first of all, i dont think the right thing to do is say that young girls will be wasting their lives away when having a baby. A baby is a beautiful thing, and a great life experience. I was 19 when i fell pregnant with my little boy and i was very ready. He is now 1 and i am 21. He is the best thing to have happened to me and i am a great mum. I think that it just depends on the girl. If they are mature enough, like i was, and they want a baby then its fine providing they do whats best for the baby and make their baby their whole world.
I probably wouldnt recommend anyone under 18 to have one though, but everyone is different i guess. Some girls are just family orientated and some are career minded. . . i had always been family orientated.. i can go back to school if i need to later on. But for now, this is my qualification.. a mum. And its the best job in the world.
Its sounds to me like you might not even have children of your own.?

Answer 3

Just because someone is young when they have or want to have kids does not mean they are going to waste their life away. I am 20 and I have 2 little girls (a 2 year old and a 2 month old), I am a single unmarried not even dating woman. I have an associates degree, going to go back to school for a bachelors degree next fall, took some time off because my 2 month old weighed under 2lbs when she was born and shes still in the hospital. I am obviously going somewhere. I got a good scholarship for the bachelors and they are going to give me a scholarship to go on for the masters too if i keep my GPA up above 3.4 out of a 4.0.

Answer 4

I think this is a matter of personal values. If your sole ambition in life is to be a mommy, then who cares how old you are as long as you are capable of handling the responsibility. One of the best mothers I've ever known had her first baby at 15!
As far as the plague of "Could I be Pregnant?" questions, I think they should be banned on Answers. If you are that dumb, you shouldn't be having sex at all! Go buy a gd pregnancy test instead of asking US. If you had sex, then you COULD be pregnant. Period.
BTW, for centuries women began having children as soon as they hit puberty, b/c this was when they were married. "Too Young" in our society is a cultural value that is not held in much of the world... It's a biological drive that not all women have the patience to supress.
I had my son (the first of what will be two) when I was 27, and if I could have married and had my first child at 20 I would have done so. It's much easier to start off life like this than to rearrange everything after you're set in your ways. I personally don't understand the women who wait till their mid-to-late thirties to have kids, like they're an afterthought or something? "I'm rich, have an expensive car, and a big house, and my co-workers can't do with out me. Let's drop everything and have a kid so I can get on with the IMPORTANT STUFF..." Ugh... I don't want to be 60 when they graduate from college...

Answer 5

I am a young mother, I don't think I wasted my life at all, I didn't plan to get pregnant young as I was on the pill but sometimes these things happen, I was only 17 when my son was born, I knew that I wanted a family but had planned to try when I was about 24 it didn't happen that way for me, I had my second a daughter at 19 and she also was unplanned, I was on the pill and we used condoms. Sometimes baby's pick when they come. I got married this year at 20 and will be 21 when my last baby is born, we planned this baby as we knew we wanted our family to grow up together and then we could move on with our life and not wait till we are a certain age before having our next child. We wanted our kids to be close to grow up together and bond. My life hasn't been wasted at all I think I am lucky and I grow with my children, They are apart of me that I am glad happened when it did, there was a reason my kids came when they did and they have taught me so much about life.

I don't think you should try to have a baby young but if it happens you deal with it. We do have sex ed but its more that sex is an open thing these days, Teenagers are growing up much faster then back in the 'old days'. Thanks for listing to my option.

Answer 6

I don't think they are teaching enough sex education classes in this country - a girl asked on here last night if she could be pregant after a guy ejaculated on her knee!!! - anyway - I think the problem lies in a LOT of parents these days are so consumed with their own lives & careers (mainly because the cost of living is SO high) - that their children are being left alone and feeling lonely. Maybe they are looking for that undivided attention and love in a bf/gf or even a baby. Also these same parents and other parents don't want the school system to talk about sex to their children fearing that it will spark their interest! My mom caught my sister having sex at 14 and then was furious when she got pregnant at 17 - when I asked her why she didn't put her on birth control, she said she wasn't about to do that - it would be like giving her a license to drive - so my response was - License or Not - your daughter was driving!!!! Parents these days need to realize that our children are overexposed to sex - tv, radio, movies - and if we don't teach them that sex leads to pregancies, STDs or worse AIDS, then our future will only continue to deteriorate! Sorry for the ramble!

Answer 7

I am 19 and I have a 16 month old son and by no means am I wasting my life away with him. I would not change him for anything. And just from having him I want to have a lot more children. I would not advise anyone getting pregnant before they are with the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives. The only person a broken home hurts is the innocent child.

Answer 8

How is a waste of life? Who are you to say what their life has entailed?

I didn't try--but didn't use protection with my husband at seventeen. It was one of those things where if it happens--great. If it doesn't--great. I have lived in Europe my whole life. I've been to Japan, Korea, Turkey, as well as all Western European countries. I spent my early teen years in Germany--where it is legal to drink. I got drunk, partied, and now have no desire to ever do it again. I graduated early at sixteen. At the time of my pregnancy I had a certificate in phlebotomy, a year away from an associates in early childhood education, and working for a corporate company. Now, a year later, I am a stay at home mother six credits away from my associates degree. Also I have NO government assistance. Not WIC, HUD, food stamps, or Medicaid.

Thought I'd add--I knew if I had unprotected sex that I could possibly become pregnant. Yes, they teach that in schools and some girls disregard it. It isn't up to schools to teach sex-ed. It's up to parents. When I still lived at home with my mom, I told her I was having sex and I got on birth control. A year after I moved out I got off of the BC and thought I'd see what would happen. It took me another year and a half to concieve.

Where has MY life been a waste? Seriously--tell me where my life has been a waste. I'd really love to know!

Answer 9

b/c every argues about what to teach kids in school. They tell you the only way to be sure is not to have sex and dont tell you about what it does to your body. If we had better teachers and classes then there wouldnt be so many questions.My sex ed class wasnt even a class, it was a week of health class decicated to sex and that was it. Pretty much all they do is tell you dont have sex and if you do use a condom and try not to get pregnant. But lets be real here, kids are going to do whatever they want to do and without the knowledge of what happening to them they make dumb choices. I dont think that having children at a young (but reasonable) age is wrong. Who wants to be an old parent? I want to still be able to keep up with my kids.

Answer 10

One word - ATTENTION. Some of the questions are legit, however a lot of them are just for attention. Probably the same reason you asked this question. I was unmarried and 18 when I got pregnant the first time, and I am now married 4 years, and have two beautiful boys that I wouldn't trade for the world. Yeah, life isn't perfect, but who's is?