like i really want to do it but then im lik eww im 14. then i woul think who cares but then i'll think aids and pregnancy. i dont want to hve it now but i dont want to wait till mariage but i dont got to hell! movies make it look sooooo fun i always think i want to do that!
please dont lecture me bu.
who use to feel this way or does now??????
2006-10-18 15:47:06 · 22 answers · asked by Pretty in pink 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It is not unusual for young people discovering their sexuality to feel this way. We all felt it at some time or another. Some people will tell you you are too young at 14. Try not to be insulted, they know that pregnancy and childbirth are very hard on women in their early teens. Don't believe everything you see in the movies, although God did make sex a pleasurable thing in order to perpetuate mankind. HIV, AIDs and pregnancy are all real things, and I recommend you learn about them so that you will take precautions when the time comes.
You have your whole life ahead of you, plenty of time to decide when and with whom to make love.
2006-10-18 16:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You feel confused because you are not mature enough to be dealing with it right now. (I don't care what you classmates say or what people do in the movies.) This isn't a put-down. People fourteen aren't supposed to be mature enough. In fact, it is because you have your legitimate concerns that shows you are more mature than many fourteen-year-olds are.
You are very right to worry about pregnancies (and what a horror that would be at 14) and diseases. Another consequence is that if you're dealing with boys your age many of them are going to be really ready for sex, but that isn't going to mean its because they want a real relationship with you. You probably don't want to be some teenage boy's "experiment" either.
Feeling confused about it (and bringing up your very legitimate concerns) tells you you are not ready. Go with that for now. In another few years you may feel differently if you know you're in some type of serious relationship with someone you can really trust as far as diseases go. Even then you can't always be all that positive, which is why people are told about "safe sex".
Another thing you may want to consider is this: If an accidental pregnancy would be so bad in your life that you'd want an abortion or else go through with an unwanted pregnancy and have a baby you feel ended your dreams for the future - consider not having sex then either, and wait until your situation is one in which an accidental pregnancy wouldn't be the end of the world.
2006-10-19 04:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i grew up very fast, and it was because of sex. I was raped by a girl and after that i just wondered. I felt confused and i wanted to try out everything and then i thought about it. And i felt like a chicken, then i said noway i cant do that.
In the end when i didn it, it was nothing like i wanted it to be and it was something til this day i completely regret. Enjoy your youth and play go out, dance party.
Your not ready for sex. It brings too much issues and too many problems. When you have sex you have to worry about pregnancy, HIV, STDS, and the whole 9 yards.
Wait til your ready until the right time, and dont give it away to "JUST" anyone, your virginity is your most beautiful treasure and once its gone you WILL NEVER get it back.
2006-10-19 02:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by diana li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not surprised you are confused. The media makes sex look great and enticing and it is. However, in saying that you need to know that the ONLY way sex is fulfilling is inside marriage. Why?
Consider this:
When you have sex outside marriage you face:
Guilt
Self-loathing, lack of self esteem
Worry about being pregnant (as there is NO safe sex even w/birth control)
Most of the time the guy takes a hike because he looses respect for the partner
You are considered "easy"
the possibility of getting caught (and you will)
. . . shall I go on?
You also miss out on giving the one gift to your future spouse that ONLY you can give, your virginity.
I didn't mention the hell part because you know what the Bible says of sex outside of marriage.
I was confused too (as a guy) and I waited and married a virgin. The joy of being the first was amazing. I HIGHLY recommend it.
By the way we've been married 29 years.
(and I had a daughter who got pregnant at 17 outside of marriage who didn't wait. . . .she is now paying the price for that decision. . . the baby's father does not support her or the child, in fact, he hardly pays attention to his daughter at all)
2006-10-19 16:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 14 everyone is confused boys and girls its normal. Before you decide to have sex ask yourself one question, am I ready to devote my life to a baby?
Yes the movies make it so fun, but they don't show the consequences of sex. Babies, STDs etc.
When you are ready and able to take care of a baby then start thinking about sex, until then be a teen enjoy life.
None of the women I know ever regretted waiting, some who didn't did.
2006-10-18 23:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Richard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal for a teenager to feel confused about sex. Hormones, media pressure, curiosity - it all smashes together and makes a great huge mess!
But I think you've answered your own question as to whether or not you should have sex now. You write:
"i dont want to hve it now"
There you go. You don't want to. So don't. You clearly don't feel like you're ready, so don't let anyone else push you into it! When the time is right for you, you'll know (and when it's right, please be safe and protect yourself!)
2006-10-18 22:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone have different feelings toward having sex.But I think you should definitely think about the effects of having sex.Of course there are sexually transmitted diseases, and I will like to let you know condoms don't protect you from all STD's.But before you even think about having sex you should look up the facts.In your only 14,and baby girl TV is not real.Be careful and safe.Much love!
2006-10-19 10:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Creshonna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its rarely the way it looks in the movies...especially the 1st time and ESPECIALLY when you're 14 years old....there are other things you can do that will feel good with fewer risks.You have to be so careful about who you mess around with...and you want to feel really good and confident in your decision and be with someone you really trust and care about.Take your time...you are so much better off waiting.Good luck!
2006-10-18 22:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by becka55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was just as confused as you at 14. some of my classmates were experimenting and i thought maybe i was behind or something. i never even thought about getting pregnant or contracting an std, so you are smarter than i was at your age. you are thinking responsibly. i waited till i was 18 and i'm glad i did. most boys don't know how to please a women anyways. wait till your a little older. its definitely worth the wait to find someone you care about and will treat you right.
2006-10-18 22:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should wait until you are completely comfortable with it there are a lot of things that go along with sex from STD's to a big range of emotions a couple of years would probably be beneficial to you
2006-10-18 22:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by mymail55350 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋