I want to get pregnant!!?

Question

I am 19 years old and a mother of one handsome 16th month old little boy. When I found out I was pregnant the first time we were shocked because I was not supposed to be able to get pregnant, but we were so excited.Recently me and my fiance have been trying to get pregnant again and it is just not working. I have been taking pregnancy test after pregnancy test and they all come up negative. I really want to have more children but it is tough everytime I take a test and it comes back negative. Is it possible that the child I have will be the only one I will be able to have? What should I do to expand the chance of getting pregnant?

Answer 1

You are the first person that i have seen write those words that i feel all the time... Is it possible that the child I have will be the only one I will be able to have?

I feel that way all the time. I had such a tough pregnancy with my son (he is 5 now). I did get pregnant last year but miscarried. I have not been on birth control in 7 years. It makes me wonder if i even can have anymore kids or if it is meant for me to just have one.
I am getting my records though from the hospital and going to go to a doctor and see if it would be okay or that i can carry another baby. I am 27 years old now and would love to have another baby but i would like to do so before i turn 30. If i never have another child that will be fine.

Here is some tips though:
Go to http://www.mymonthlycycles.com and put in your period info and it will calculate when you will be fertile and ovulating. It is a free and helpful site to join.

Trying to Conceive - Helpful tips for getting pregnant
Find out when you are ovulating
There are several ways you can do this. One of the easiest ways is to purchase a Basal thermometer and start charting your temperatures. You can use Justmommies free fertility chart to record and keep track of your temperatures. Make sure you take you use a basal thermometer.

It is the most accurate for charting ovulation. Take your temperature as soon as you wake up, before you get out of bed, go to the bathroom or do anything. Try to take your temperature at the same time every morning if you can. This way your chart will be more precise. The best time to have sex is between the time your temperature drops and before it rises again.

One other way you can find out when you are ovulating is by using an ovulation predictor test. You can purchase ovulation tests in bulk online to make it more affordable. Ovulation kits measure the amount of Lutenizing Hormone in your body. Right before you ovulate your body releases a large amount of LH. The test kits are easy to use. They are very similar to a pregnancy test. You will have a reference line and then a sample line to compare that to. Once you show a positive test for ovulation you should have intercourse within twenty-four hours.

Some of the best ways to predict when you are ovulating are by watching your body for signs of ovulation. Some women feel cramping on one side when they ovulate. Ovulation pain should not be the only thing you watch for but it is one indicator of ovulation. You should also keep an eye on your cervical mucous. You will notice that your cervical mucous will pick up several days before ovulation. When your cervical mucous starts to look like egg white and becomes really slippery, this is the best time to get pregnant. The slippery consistency helps to carry the sperm up the vaginal canal. Some doctors recommend taking Robitussin to help thin out your mucous which will help to transport the semen.

Some dos and don’ts for getting pregnant

Do limit movement after intercourse. Standing up after intercourse can cause the semen to leak out. Try to wait twenty minutes after sex before getting up and moving around.

Do try to keep the sperm inside your vagina longer. You can hold the labia together to try to keep the sperm inside of you. You can also try putting a pillow under your pelvis to help tilt your body so the sperm can travel upwards easier.

Do try to make sex enjoyable. Sometimes when a couple is trying to conceive it will affect the quality of their sex life. More enjoyable sex means higher sperm count and better “swimmers”.

Do limit intercourse and male masturbation prior to the days you are trying to conceive. It will help to increase the man’s sperm count and improve your chances of getting pregnant.

Do take prenatal vitamins if you are trying to conceive. Folic acid and other vitamins are very important during the first trimester of pregnancy.

Don’t drink alcohol or use drugs at the time of conception. This applies to both the male and female. There is strong evidence that alcohol can effect your chances of getting pregnant.

Don’t douche after having intercourse. It can wash out the sperm that has just entered your body.

Don’t have oral sex prior to intercourse. There is some evidence that the bacteria in the mouth can cause damage to male sperm.

Don’t have anal sex prior to intercourse. Bacteria in the anas can be carried into the vagina from the man’s penis. If you do have anal sex before intercourse, make sure your partner washes his penis first.

If you have been trying to conceive for over a year please consult a doctor. You may need to have tests run or use fertility treatments.

Get more trying to conceive information at http://www.Justmommies.com

Good luck honey

Answer 2

Let me say that my kids are 22 months apart and I find it difficult at times and I'm 24, married. With that out of the way, we tried to get pregnant with our first and we used home ovulation test sticks. I can't remember how much they were but there were 7 in the pack and we used two. If you know when your period is about to start like a week before use one and it'll tell if you're ovulating. And it's not three weeks it's three DAYS that sperm lives in the body. Most importantly relax. If you try and expect too much you'll just get your hopes up and be disappointed. Focus on something else and just take your time with getting pregnant. Worry after about a year of trying. Good luck

Answer 3

Stop for a minute, relax and have the mature degree of self-control that a mother should have and put your sons wants and needs above your own. He is 16 months, you need to put some time and energy into playing with him and loving him for a little longer. You don't have one baby and then just move on to the next so quickly. Take some time to just enjoy your little boy and capture pictures and spend time with him. When he is two maybe you can think about having another baby. And by then you'll be almost an adult.

Answer 4

First, he's only a fiance if you've set a date. Why aren't you married? What are you waiting for?

Second, you're only 19. These days, a woman expecting at 40 isn't uncommon - you're just a kid, in the whole scope of things - I'm not trying to be condescending...

Third, anxiety can keep you from getting pregnant. Relax.

Finally, go see a doctor - don't rely on advice from strangers when it comes to life decisions.

Answer 5

First, You should wait at least two years before getting pregnant with your next child. There are new studies out saying that if there is less than 18 months since the birth of your last child and the conception of the next, you have an increased risk of having a premature baby, and it is best to wait longer. This study came out when I was pregnant with my youngest, who is one month old. Her due date was yesterday. Having a premature baby is no fun. I had to have an emergency C section, couldn't see her very much (20 minutes every 3-4 hours, couldn't breastfeed, she had an IV, tubes, monitors, for the first 24 hours. And she did good for being so early; I got very lucky)

Answer 6

From my knowledge, I think you couple should rent an erotic movie or buy one. This way both of you will get aroused and will have a lot of desire to have sex. Maybe that way you'll get pregnant.

BUT... at some point, it could be the men's problem. See if your guy is really interested in having another child, because sometimes men can prevent pregnancy if they want, but works less than half of the time.

Answer 7

Congrats on your baby boy!!!

My mom was told that she would be unable to have children and after five years of trying she had me. The Dr. said i would be the only one, four years later my baby brother pop-ed out. Now the Dr's have told me that I can't have kids; i have been trying for over five years but have not given up hope yet... close but not yet. Just relax enjoy your son ans when the time is right you will have an addition to your family.
Stop taking the PG test they will drive you mad, trust me I know. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You can buy an in-home ovulation test (usually around the preg tests) to see when you are ovulating and most likely to become fertile.

You can also go to your OB/Gyn to see if you have any endometriosis, which is a big problem for fertility. It can easily be removed via laproscope.

Keep on trying. That part's fun :)

(edit: Semen only "lives" for 24-48 hours at the most. Not 3 weeks.)

Answer 9

well there are many things that will increase your chance of fertility but simple change in life habits. Firstly aviod alcohol, smoking, and caffine. Also stick to healthy diet with lots of nutrition. Perhaps taking a womens multi vitamin daily will help as well.

Congrats!

Answer 10

Sometimes trying to hard can make things worse...just don't worry about "getting pregnant" just have sex for fun. Also during sex maybe putting pillows underneath your backside and after sex holding your knees up to your chest might help. Good luck with everything. Oh, and don't believe everything doctors tell you because I was told I couldn't have children and I have two beautiful little boys, so doctors aren't always right. Good luck!!!

Answer 11

How about you get married and make sure you are going to stay with your husband. People minds change in their 20's and there is a good chance you might not like the guy any more in a few years. You probably already ruined the life of one kid, don't risk ruining the life of a second kid. Broken homes ARE NOT the environment to raise kids in.