My friends won't grow up! I thought high school would shape them up. I am an active member of my school's GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance) and suddenly I'm a lesbian and they won't talk to me. And all the guys think I'm a lesbian and no one is interested in me. All my friends are either over the age of 20, are seniors when I'm a freshman or go to different schools. I'm getting tired of this, but I am not backing out of the GSA. Any advice?
2006-10-18 15:34:13 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I forgot to mention that I am straight... just open minded and accepting.
2006-10-18 15:34:45 · update #1
It's too bad that your friends are so immature! You are a brave soul to join the club since it's for gay/straight people and not back down and let peer pressure make you give up something that you are interested in and involved in! It can be so hard growing up and have peer pressure, but what makes you a better person is that you stick to what you believe in and I'm sure when you're a friend, you're a friend for life!! For the guys that won't date you b/c they think you're a lesbian, they haven't taken the time to get to know you and they are the ones missing out on getting to know & date a really wonderful girl!!! They don't deserve you!! When the time is right, the right guy will come along!! My best advice to you is to keep doing what you are doing. If the way you live your life doesn't show others the type of person you are & I'm not just talking about you being straight and people thinking otherwise, then it just shows how immuture they really are!! The way we live our lives speak volumes about who we really are!! Good luck and God bless you!!
2006-10-18 16:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by c's grandma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature for one to want to "hang out" or be a part of a group with which he/she has things in common. If you see a group of people coming out of a church would it be your assumption that they are Christians? They are probably NOT all Christians but wouldn't you THINK they were? If I put on a white robe and a mask and shout racial slurs is it wrong for you to assume I am a member of the KKK? (I'm not by the way, just using it to make a point.) Why then is it such a far-fetched assumption for those around you to believe you are gay when you are a member of GSA? While it's noble of you to want to jump on the bandwagon and support the "cause you believe in" (as misguided as you may be) you are killing your own personal social life. Here's a news flash: You don't get a 2nd chance at high school. You are wasting too much of these precious years trying to defend something that you aren't. Why not just go be a kid? What's so wrong with that? Go to the movies. Go to the mall. Have fun and enjoy the precious little time you have left during your childhood. Like I said, you never get it back.
2006-10-18 22:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some people take longer to grow up, others will never grow up (yeah they exist). High school is still early for certain. I'm sure the other people in the GSA have similar points of interest than you, so why not befriend them?
Maybe you've matured earlier than other kids your age. College is going to be quite different, when it comes to thing like this. Just a few more years!
2006-10-18 22:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by rice kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a straight mom that has raised 3 kids. If this is a club that you believe in, then stick with it! If your friends are too insecure to respect your interests and values, even if they don't 100% agree or understand, then they may not be such good friends after all. Unfortunatly, a great deal of carbon copies enter high school, trying to fit in, but you will find out threw the next few years that the ones that stand up and stand out find the most success and happiness in life. Good luck!
2006-10-18 22:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Obviously yourfriends are too immature to deal with adult issues. You have to remember though that in highschool the students ARE young. Be glad that you have matured into a well rounded teen. Don't worry too much what the kids at your school think. If you react to their remarks you'll only end up giving them ammunition for more teasing. Ignore it. I graduated highschool over ten years ago...and although I was popular, it didn't make a bit of difference in the end. Everyone at that age has hang ups, and in reality, they are only worried what other people are thinking about THEM. Keep up the good work and stay steadfast in your beliefs....The more you do, the greater respect people will have for you later on. Besides...you're creating great moral character for yourself. Screw those other guys!
2006-10-18 22:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only a freshmen and your friends are still young and immature, alot of people don't like gays and don't know how to act around them. Your friends are probly just uncomfortable with talking about gays or maybe they just don't like them. The boys your age are just starting puberty so they are pretty immature yet and want to fit in with everybody else along with your friends. I believe mentally you are more mature and that is also why you have older friends. Let them talk there smack hopefully they will eventually grow out of it. Good luck. and stay with your alliance group. I have a few friends who are gay so i support it also, people just need to be more open-minded.
2006-10-18 22:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by kooimanlora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friend" = someone who accepts me for who and/or what I am.
Maybe you need new friends, the GSA might be a good place to find them. I'm sure there are other straight members...if not, remember, you have the power to open the door for other straight people who really want to get involved, but afraid to stand up for their own beliefs.
If you feel strongly about this organization, stand your ground...people will eventually respect you for it. By the way, I'm straight too. (big deal, right?)
2006-10-18 22:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Silly Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are a lady who
has opinions and the heck with what
others think.
If that is the case, you must be willing
to step outside the norm for your class.
First.. Don't go cruising for guys...You will
only find the dreggs and leftovers from
other peoples' affairs.
Spend time at the Art Museum.
Spend time at the Library.
Spend time at the Drag Strip
Spend time at the Marina
let the men find you, then pick and
choose whose fancy you like best...
.
2006-10-18 22:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by zahbudar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not back out of the GSA? for a change. I guessed if you have a change of environment, that will also affect a change of the way of your thinking and the way of your living.
2006-10-18 22:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just to more mature than the people your age. You need to understand that there are always going to be people that are less mature than you are. Some of the people will become more mature, but there will always be those that will never grow up. I think that you should just take a deep breath and either forget about those that you cannot please (You cannot please everyone). Also, lighten up a little bit, you are still young and you might supprise yourself by seeing what people that are less mature than you have to offer.
2006-10-18 22:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋