married 24 yrs he cheated with some 21 yr old that he now lives with.....my question is after 6 months of silence between us.........we have 4 kids to boot who live with me.......he is asking questions like..........where is mom............is mom home.......is she on the computer...............why now?....am i reading more into it?
2006-10-18 15:14:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are. He's not coming back.
2006-10-18 15:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. BIG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reading correctly. He had a little taste of lust and found out it's not all what it's cracked up to be in the end. Be prepared. Next he will start coming by, calling you and asking for forgiveness. He has realized he has made a HUGE mistake. Now he's feeling all the guilt, the remorse, the pain he has caused you and the kids, and it's just now starting to eat him alive. He feels like a fool, an idiot and it's killing him inside because he has NOW realized that what he did was totally selfish and wrong.
2006-10-18 19:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking about what he is thinking about. The only reason you care is because he hurt you so badly. Stop caring and move on with your life.
Would you actually take him back? Probably, because your self-esteem is so low right now that you think he is all there is.
Go buy some books on recovering from this heart break. The healthier you get your mind the clearer you will be able to the truth about your circumstances.
Good luck to you dear and be strong.
2006-10-18 15:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by onemelbgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that 21 year old grass on the other side might not be so green after all. It's all up to you just remember old habits are hard to break, and you have 4 other people besides yourself to think about. Be careful and best of luck!
2006-10-18 15:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by ron k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So... your ex is experiencing demmentia? He wants his mommy?
I'd guess he's curious as to how you're faring without him. Whether that means he wants to start things up again or not is a diffierent question. I'd be willing to bet that the novelty of the college-aged fling is waring thin, though.
BUT, WHO CARES WHAT HE WANTS? What do you want? Answer that and then take the apropriate steps.
2006-10-18 15:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Merelda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is jealous. He doesn't want to be in the relationship, but he doesn't want to 'lose' you either. It could also be that he is finding that the grass isn't greener on the other side. Or if your children are young enough it could be that he is considering fighting for custody so he is trying to soak the kids for any bad information that he can get from them. It could be alot of reasons!
2006-10-18 15:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a young 21 year old and a older man is fun and a great feeling but think about it what is there to do or talk about it was fun and about sex now is dieing and he wants to try and find out if you are seeing anyone or cheating on line with anyone ETC
2006-10-18 15:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by russellvero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like the grass isnt greener on the other side.
or, he wants his cake and too eat it too. most men are so shallow that they think a peppy 21 year old will make them look or feel better. HA. dont give in to him, he will do this again! once a cheater,always a cheater.
2006-10-18 15:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i don't know what you are talking about. Who is asking where is mom? Your ex? your kids? You're their mom so why would they ask you that. Not sure I can read into what you are trying to say.
2006-10-18 15:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U should set a plan and u r going 2 have 2 talk 2 him sooner or later y not sooner
2006-10-18 15:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nini 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont let him sweet talk you. Maybe things arent so sweet where he is right now and he wants to see if you still care. Dont do it. WHos to say he wouldnt do it again as soon as he got the chance?!
2006-10-18 15:21:19 · answer #11 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋