It seems like when your roller coaster of a happy relationship is at it's highest it always seems to fall, you see my girlfriend for 2 years (WHO I LOVE WITH ALL MY LIFE AND HEART) is back to believing that I am going to cheat on her....She found porn on my computer but I DID NOT and I swear look at anything like that nature that could jepordize our love, She thinks I am going to cheat on her with someone on the computer or just overall but That is the last thing I want to do! The last few nights I have felt the love like NEVER before she has told me she wants me in her life and it has moved me to tears, the other night she said she wants to get a house and be together and get married and have kids and that is what I am striving on right now the dignity to get her dream on the move, CHEATING is the last thing I would think about and it is something I wouldn't ever think about! I LOVE HER to death and couldn't live without her, she is beautiful in every way......
2006-10-18 15:11:59 · 10 answers · asked by E.F. Landeros 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My only goal in our relationship is to love her and to treat her and give her that dream that she wants, but is this her way of saying she can't trust me anymore and her dream is for me just to leave???? I would really miss her if I had to...:'-( Thanks for your help Blue
2006-10-18 15:14:57 · update #1
Disconnect the internet for a while. Tell her after the deed is done. It should show her how serious you are.
2006-10-18 15:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you say she found porn on your computer and you say that you swear you never look at stuff like that...so what was it doing on your computer?
Your girlfriend sounds insecure and afraid that you will leave her for someone she thinks is better than her.
Theres nothing you can really do but assure her that you love her and will never leave her. I don't know why she should get so upset over porn on your computer, it's a guy thing and she should learn to accept it.
I honestly think, and don't get this the wrong way, but there is no relationship without trust. A good, healthy, loving, LASTING relationship is built on trust, tell her she needs to learn to trust you in order for you both to work.
2006-10-18 22:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is one way you can prove to your girlfriend . Don't use the computer . Leave it alone. and the only time to get on it is when you and her get on it together. That will show her. That you have nothing to hide from her. Plus when you don't get on when she is not there. Show her that you don't need the computer. and the only time you will get on it .Like i said before when she is there with you. Enjoy the computer together. Then she might start trusting you. Just take day by day.
2006-10-18 22:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok are u ready for this? If your situation is like this then i have your answer.........if there is NO reason at all that you have given her to feel this way then all you can do is reassure her....tell her you understand how she feels, you dont blame her for these feelings, maybe it was past bf's that mis-treated her...etc. tell her you will prove this to her by loving & accepting her for who she is. Irregaurdless of you not having any fault, if you want to be with her u will be patient with this issue, and tell her that too.....tell her u will break thru those walls she has and she will see & trust you for who u are.......honest and sincere. this might sound extreame but trust me when i tell you i was like that too, with good reason, then i met a man that did all these things for me......now i trust him, and that is huge for me...best of luck
2006-10-18 22:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by iluvluceee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for some reason she thinks you are going to cheat. Now if you ever gave her that idea or ever did it, she is not getting over that. If you have done nothing but been good, well she has got some serious mental issue she needs to deal with or you are destined to be miserable for the rest of your life bro...
2006-10-18 22:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a 38 year old woman and I have been married 10 years this December. My husband looks at porn, and i admit that I use to feel like your girlfriend until I realized that to you men it is all fantasy and it has made our sex life even better, he has learned GREAT things!!!!! Share this with her it may help.
2006-10-18 22:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell her everything you are telling us. She needs to trust you or it won't work. Trust is important and you need to tell her that. You need to say everything exactly how you said it here and hopefully she will take it with the heart and realize you mean what you say. Good luck, but there is not much you can do but tell her how you feel and hope she rolls with it.
2006-10-18 22:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. Do you or do you not look at porn? If you do, and you know this upsets her, you are not demonstrating to her that you truly love her by your behavior. Words are hollow.
2006-10-18 23:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by The_Answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her straight from your heart. she is just worried .proved to her your intentions are good and that you intent to settle down with her.and you have to make her feel that too.be extra sweet and caring with her.
2006-10-18 22:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she is insecure in herself. You need to reassure her that she is the only one for you.
2006-10-18 22:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋