im 14 and i started dating a guy named ryder chilson and fell in love.but we were to different for it to last.im a loner that most people dont like and hes a prep boy that every one wants to be with and i was the one that had him.i knew it was to good to last.we have dated three times and every time he breakes my heart more and more but i feel like i cant live without him so i always take him back even though i know its a big mistake i dont know how not to love him any more and i dont want to because if i dont stop im gonna kill myself please help me
2006-10-18 15:11:39 · 18 answers · asked by baby_bat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are truly in love, then you will learn to live with the hurt. I am now happily married. I still hurt over one I lost. I just learned to live with it. You will too.
2006-10-18 15:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there baby. Time, and finding things (including other love interests) that will take your mind off of him. Best thing I can tell you right now is to find the happy medium in your grief. If you deny it, it will be stuffed pain that will eat away at you inside. On the other hand, if you over dwell on it, it will control your emotions to the point that you will become a nervous wreak. But, most importantly, don't just sit around and wallow in self-pity. Find things to do, and other kids your age to hang around with. I pray a guy worthy of your charm will cross your path soon. God Bless.
2006-10-18 22:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly know what you're going thru (even though I am a guy) and I can tell you the best thing to heal your broken heart at your age is to go out with someone eose and don't dwell on him. Pining is only painful and a waste of time. Find someone to go out with and have fun...and try to keep it light (not so serious). You have a LOT of time to find your true love. Take it easy and enjoy being young while you can. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-10-18 22:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by rudee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry just push him away ignore him, look just stay away from him for a month or 2 and you will see that what u think you are felling right know was not real love. trust me allot of girls go true this i did and look I'm 19 and happy and an never say Ur going to kill your self that is wrong no man is wort it. best wishes and lots of love
2006-10-18 22:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 15 and i kno how you feel ther all i can say is time and don't think about what could have been its okay to reminices on good times but only if it creates a smile instead of a tear if it was your first TRUE love they say it never heals and that youll always have a place there for them but... everyone as 1 person for them it just takes time
2006-10-18 22:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Patrix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that relationships at your age will all be short term and that you shouldn't spend any time with someone who makes you unhappy or breaks your heart. You will find someone else very soon to spend time with and until you do just focus on doing something good for yourself. You will feel better soon.
2006-10-18 22:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by sprtek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to kill yourself. Your young, theres going to be so many guys that come your way that are going to treat you like a queen! Only time and distance will heal your broken heart, why allow someone to treat you like this? You deserve much better. Its hard to be strong but he's only going to keep on doing this and its going to seriously mess with your head.
2006-10-18 22:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Came On, dont worry. I know ist very cruel and it is killing you, but beleave me time is the best medicine, try to go out with frineds and family, have fun .
Im sure you are very pretty and a very nice person, so dont worry, love and live finds their way
2006-10-18 22:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by cpsssur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a little too young to be dating, and those feelings will go away soon. Keep yourself busy doing other stuff, like join some school clubs and sports.
2006-10-18 22:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you're 14... you're going to look back at this question that you asked over the internet when you're older and be embarressed. Plus, anyone with the name Ryder can't be worthwhile :)
2006-10-18 22:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by dizzyfish118 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋