She is trying to beat her eating disorder, she has had it for the 5 years we have been friends, and during the 5 years she has had it I have got so sick and tired of her eating habits, I have been getting annoyed at EVERY THING about her!! What do i do?
2006-10-18 15:05:00 · 10 answers · asked by Lil Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you are annoyed with her, you don't have to be her friend.
2006-10-18 15:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to understand how hard it is to have an eating disorder. Your friend is going through alot right now and you should want to help her with it. I understand that you're hurt because of things with her eating habits before but she's trying to change that. She's trying to fight something that's inside of her. It's not as easy as you think. Give her a chance. Talk to her about how you feel and how much it hurts you to see her like that.
2006-10-18 22:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand that you have a friend there and if you were going thru a rough spot in life how you would want to have friends around you regardless how schitty you have been to them. Friendship is a give and take relationship...sometimes you are giving, somtimes taking. Be a true friend and stand up for her. You will feel better about yourself in the end!!
2006-10-18 22:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you care very much for her but her pain is causing you too much distress so you need to back away for awhile. Hopefully she will get the professional help that she needs but when someone else's problems are causing you problems, it's definitely time to bail out of that relationship. I don't believe she is hurting you intentionally, but "hurting people hurt people". If she chooses to improve her life you can become friends again, but if she doesn't you need to move on permanently. This might seem harsh but reality means you must do whatever is best for yourself even if you have to say good-bye to someone so special to you.
2006-10-18 22:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. She has the serious problem, not you. Try and be a little more supportive and a little less selfish.
**I had to come back and edit this because this question really pissed me off...
What I said may be harsh, but I was anorexic, I know how hard it is, and you are in no position to demand a certain attitude from her or even to disassociate from your friendship with her. You said she is your best friend, if you can abandon your best friend when she needs you this much you need to seriously evaluate how you define "best friend."
2006-10-18 22:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think you have to realize she's going thru a hard time right now...she needs you to be a friend more than ever...i know it probably seems like its one way right now, but she really needs you...just relax, get a massage, talk to another person someone who doesn't know either of you, just so you can vent a bit...cuz i know i need that every once in a while..encourage her to eat better...because of the eating disorder you probably don't know the real her...wait it out...it will get better, but those disorders are hard to get over...she needs a friend right now..
2006-10-18 22:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by *<3_Gizmo* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a break from her. After awhile, all this becomes very energy draining. You need to replenish your own life. It seems you have given out way too much, and you need to replenish.
2006-10-18 22:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does she have any friends? If you are her only friend you should stand by her. Maybe when she kicks this she will change and realize how good you are to her.
2006-10-18 22:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by angelica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they dont get over it I delt with it from an ex 10 years later she is still dealing with it just as if it were an addiction. forget about her its all up to her to fix this BS stupidity.
2006-10-18 22:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds as if you don't want to be her friend anymore. If the friendship is not working out for you, it's time to end it.
2006-10-18 22:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋