2006-10-18 15:02:39 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In short...tolerance.
2006-10-18 15:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. BIG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The secret is commitment.
For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, etc.
Mature people realize that life is full of problems. You don't get a divorce just because there are problems.
Some problems you can work through together. Some problems will fade away on their own with time. But you just have to learn to live with some problems.
To divorce and remarry is just to end up with more problems plus the garbage and failure of the first time around.
2006-10-21 21:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I thought trust, respect and communication. My wife and I failed on communication over the last year. Trust and respect started to fall. Now after 3 years of marraige and over 7 years of dating she has told me she is leaving me and is not willing to try to work things out. I am going to a marraige theripist, but so far she has refused. At least I am learning alot about relationships and my faults in them. I have owned up to my part in our relationship but she is not taking any fault.
I would say communication. Not just verble, but all the hints people drop are very important. I have learned a lot about the ways men and women communicate differently. And they do not understand the different ways.
2006-10-18 22:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Left Alone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily ever after takes alot of work. some people are not willing to work things out with their mate. some people think that life is supposed to be smooth sailing all the time. thats not how life is. and neither is a relationship. it takes patients and hard work to make it to happily ever after. hope this helps someone!
2006-10-18 22:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by gigi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I (20 years now)made it so long because leaving was not an option. Both of our families told us, "IF you want to leave each other, fine, but you're not moving in here!". Basically early on we were forced to work out differences and we learned from there how to communicate with one another. But above all, we show respect for one another. We still say please and thank you to each other, we have never never called eachother names. Sure we get mad...but we respect that we can be mad without having to call names and act 2 years old.
My husbands demands that our children show respect to me, and I don't reverse his decision behind his back. There's lots more, but I think Respect for the other is a biggie.
2006-10-18 22:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is communication and compromise. It's not too hard to do, people just lack common sense or common knowledge.
If people were open and honest with one another, relationships would last much longer.
2006-10-18 22:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust, Understanding, and Faithfulness are the secrets too that "Happy ever after"..It takes all that and more too make any relationship work.
2006-10-18 22:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of the big secrets is patience and forgiveness. That's not all you need but if you don't have those you won't get far at all.
2006-10-18 22:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do it by putting your mates needs ahead of your own.
We have been together 31years, my parent have been together
67 years and my wife's have 59 years.
2006-10-18 22:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by biged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication and compromise.
2006-10-18 23:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋