ok i have been dating this guy for 8 months now we have been through sooo much we were dating for 4 months and in june we broke up for a month he dated this other girl and i made a drunken mistake at a grad party adn did things with another guy and then me and the guy i love got back together after a month and he was the sweetest guy ever things have been perfect except none of my friends like him and he found out i did that stuff with the other guy and he got really mad b/c he said that the other guy was supposed to be his friend but we got over it and things have been great and i feel that he is the one for me i no we are young but im so unhappy without him and i really donno what id do if i lost him but tonight he told me that the girl he dated 4 months ago is pregnant and they think its his what would u do if the person u love got someone else pregnant would u stay with him if u love him and they dono if its his or not yet idk what to do b/c i dont wana break up with him HELP
2006-10-18 14:53:12 · 24 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You answered your own question, you said you don't want to break up with him. He dated another girl and you were with another man. You can't really condemn him for what he did when you weren't together.
2006-10-18 14:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm this is a REALLY hard thing to deal with. I guess you gotta listen to your heart 2 a point but love isnt always enough.. You could love again if yall broke up. I KNOW it feels like you couldnt but you can! I know from experence... I think it would be best if it is his 2 probby break up I know this isnt what you wanna hear peobly so Im not really exspecting to get best andser lol... But can you emadgin how weird it would be for the rest of your life to be w/aman who has a child w/some one else and 2 know that your not the mother to his child... It is weird.. I would let him go.. this is what he chose 2 do... Im sorry! Good Luck
2006-10-18 21:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have no choice. I would have to wait to see if the baby was his, then go from there. Just remember with baby's, comes major responsibilities, not to mention the child's mother is now going to be around for a long time. Is being around this child something you can deal with if it turns out to be his? Can you handle yourself civilly with the child's mother? Will it be a big financial strain on you as a couple? Are you ready to be a step-mother? (realizing you're not married, but it could lead to that in the future) Can you not bad mouth the mother? (it's not all her fault she got pregnant) These are the questions I would be asking myself while waiting for the results of the paternity.
2006-10-18 22:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go back and think about the fact that none of your friends like him -- maybe love has blinded you to something that is important and could be a negative factor later on. Really consider what they are trying to tell you. I'd be concerned about the guy because it certainly sounds like he rushes into sex way too fast; and I definitely don't think that's an honorable thing for a guy to do. He doesn't sound like a gentleman at all; in fact he sounds like a loser.
2006-10-18 21:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby the damage has already been done. Unless you want a crazy hoe knocking on your door for child support. A close relative of mine went through the same experience and she chose to stay with the guy. To her dismay he kept on cheating with other women till she finally had to break her own heart and dump him.
Dont disrespect yourself by staying with a boy who couldnt control himself. People will talk behind your back as the girl who stayed with her cheating man who is the daddy of a baby with that other girl.
2006-10-18 21:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel for you and your situation. It all depends on your feelings for each other. I know that you love him but does he truly have feelings back for you that way? Are you going to stay in a committed relationship? Is he going to take care of the baby? Is the other girl going to keep the baby? You may want to get out now before you really get hurt. Seeing him take care of another woman's baby and spending time w/ her going to dr's appointments and such is really going to stress you out. If you get out now it may save you stress down the road. Think about it, that baby is going to be a constant reminder of what he did that month and he obviously didn't use protection! Get out and have some fun you don't need to be tied down to this man who obviously has too much drama going on.
2006-10-18 21:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this happen to me too It was a one night stand and we'd just started dating I actually went with him when the girls father confronted him my bf told him his daughter paid for the hotel room the father blew up at his daughter my friend had nothing to do with the child Untill she was in her late 20's I married someone else!!!! but I did stick by him and it was finejust because he got someone pg doesn't mean he dosen't love you but watch how he treats the baby if it is his!!!
2006-10-18 23:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by dogydoorman@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? These things happened when you were broken up right? All you can do is be supportive of him until the question of paternity is answered, when that happens then decide if you want to be with a man who has a child from another relationship.
2006-10-18 21:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Sure you both made mistakes but a child changes your life completely. You are young and need to enjoy your life before you decide to have kids. AS for him its called protection.
2006-10-18 22:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by cbel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, not exactly but somewhat. I tried to stick it out and it ended up being too hard. Not only is that baby going to be around forever but so is the female that had it.
2006-10-18 21:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋