What do you do when your own mother never calls or visits you or your kids?

Question

Heres the deal my mother never want to be a part of my life or my kids. When i was a child growing up my mother was a jehovah's witness, and i am not, then about 2 years ago she stoped i thought that was the best thing that had ever happen to her boy was i wrong. Now my mother lives above a bar in a tinny room not appartment, drinks every day has no car or licence. I feel so bad for her but at the same time im so mad. I have tryed to tell her how i feel, all it does is start a fight. I call her about 3-4 times a week to make shure she is okay. Do i just stop calling her and maybe she will see what its like? or Do i go on letting her do what she has been doing? This last past 3 years i have gottin out of a bad realition ship, (With someone my mother hated) got married to a good man and had a nother baby, she has missed most of all the important things in my life, the think that bothers me the most is my kids she never askes about them and never wants to watch them. What do i do? HELP

Answer 1

Your mother is going through something right now. Sometimes, we as adults can be stubborn and we want to deal with things or situations ourselves. I will limit my phone calls to a least once or twice a week just to show her that you still care and love her. Whatever you do! Don't give up on her and one day she will come around and start asking about her grandchildren and even watching them. "ONLY TIME CAN TELL". GOOD LUCK!! P.S. Pray for her.

Answer 2

With my daughter I slowly began entering right into a cleansing ordinary at approximately 2 weeks yet so some distance as going to work out kin nicely the only ingredient i can assert to that's in the event that they opt for to bypass to they are able again to your abode if not she needs to rigidity approximately herself. do not enable her convey you down and he or she isn't any way top you're a clean mom and do issues the type you sense needs to be executed. in case you opt to hold your son then by utilising all ability carry him. My husband(boyfriend on the time) use to consistently tell me the autonomous ingredient because of the fact i would not enable her cry for extremely long i could in simple terms %. her up. i'm going to be the comparable way with my son whilst he comes. whilst my son does come i don't plan on going everywhere with him for the 1st month.

Answer 3

If your mom never wanted to be part of your life to begin with, the best thing to do is sever all ties with her. If she doesn't want to be there for you now, she won't later. As far as your kids are concerned, if they don't know her and what she's really like and capable of, they're a lot better off in the long run.

Answer 4

If you already know she's never been interested in being a part of your life, you should leave her alone. It may hurt, but it might lift some of that weight off your shoulders. You can't force someone to care about anything if they truely don't. Your mother could also be extremely jealous, and she can't bear to see someone else experiencing happiness.

Answer 5

Look its not your lose it is her's.. If you really tried to bring her into your life you have done what you could. Spend the energy on those kids of yours. Seems just asking the question here proves your 100% better then your Mom.. Good Luck.. Hug your kids..

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is to help your mother realize that she needs help. She will not change her ways until she is ready to. Sometimes in cases like this, it's best to distance yourself from the situation.

Answer 7

your mom sounds depressed ask her to go to counseling and rehab and go visit her

Answer 8

thank your lucky stars didn't you get enough of her while you were growing up??????????