So I'm 24 yrs old, in my first year in grad school. School is hard and stressful, but I'm anxious about graduating and not being a student anymore (even though graduation is over a year away). It's like I'm afraid of being an adult in the real world. And for some reason, I keep thinking about getting married & having kids and it really scares me. Those things used to seem exciting and important to me, now they just seem scary & I'm not even sure I want to have kids anymore. Just the idea of my life being "settled" scares me. And I've been feeling pretty down about it all lately and just worried my life will suck. I don't know why I think this. Anyone else experience similar feelings?
2006-10-18 14:18:22 · 2 answers · asked by it'sjustme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YES! I'm in grad school and feeling exactly the same way. I'm trying to just get through each day, one by one now. Really, that's all you can do at this point. Just worry about the goal your after right now - the degree. Don't go rushing to figure out the goal after that, or after that, or after that. Just try to get through the day, the week, the semester. You'll make yourself nuts trying line up your whole life (settling down or not).
2006-10-18 14:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that caterpillars worry a lot about becoming butterflies, too.
My Dad once told me that Life is a series of going from one problem to the next. Don't look forward to that ever ending, you'll always have something to worry about, something new to resolve.
What I figured out on my own is that not only do we all have problems we worry about, we all make our livings by solving someone's problem for them.
It's normal. Go ahead and worry, but don't worry about worrying. Worrying is normal.
2006-10-18 21:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋