nothing sexual or nothing of that nature but i want my girlfreind to be more controlling and would like her to wear the pants in relationship! any ideas please help
2006-10-18 14:17:21 · 11 answers · asked by please 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please do not go down this road. I have "been there/done that" for almost 7 years of marriage and 9 years together. It is so exhausting! It seems great at first, but I guarantee you will tire and so will she and then the resentment kicks in. It's hard to get off of that downward spiral once it starts.
A partnership should be 50/50. At times you may have more of a say on some things and vice versa. But it should all even out in the end. When you have one partner making all of the decisions and raising the kids, etc. it's a real strain and the relationship takes the hit. Speak up for what you believe in, yet learn to compromise. Good luck!!
2006-10-18 14:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by ohm2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her this? Perhaps she is just looking for somewhat of an oldfashioned relationship where the guy wheres the pants and she has no interest in assuming that role. You might want to find out. Also these days women can easily be viewed as controlling and demanding and maybe she doesn't want you to think that she is trying to "be the boss" of you. This is why you need to either discuss this with her, or give her something specific to do and see if she's a take charge kind of girl. Why don't you start by asking her to plan a dinner for you both, or if possible, a weekend away. See if she is capable of choosing the location, making the reservations and planning an agenda. Communication is the key to any relationship.
2006-10-18 21:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by JennieLouie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then show to her that your a wimp [no offense] and that you need some help! Like take a looooong time deciding things and maybe you can even aske her to help out a little more!
2006-10-18 21:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always give her the opportunity to make decisions. Say u want to go out for the day, ask her what she wants to do. if u always make her decide on things then she'll get used to it and let it'll be natural for her to do so
2006-10-18 21:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never gonna happen. Find a stronger female. one with a type A ,controlling , director type ,personality. Like me.
2006-10-18 22:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by jassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you like to be mothered
just act really dumb with tings and always say to her "You decide" and go along with whatever she says eventually it will come naturally to her to just say "go do this" and "come on were going here " you get the idea
2006-10-18 21:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by omissy2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought u r a men and u should be wearing pants in relationship..?? i always thought thats how it supossed to be.
2006-10-18 21:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is who she is but you can tell her your wishes and maybe she will try to be what you want once in a while.
2006-10-18 21:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a gal that is more dominant.
2006-10-19 10:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by brookie1977m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful what you wish for...
2006-10-18 21:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by ltsnthf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋