My Friend doesnt aprove of my white boyfriend.....?

Question

One of my friends that I have known for 15 years now disapproves of my being black and dateing a white male. She has told me she finds interracial relationships pointless an even discusting. When iam on the phone with my boyfriend she has made rude comments out loud telling my to hang up on the white boy or yelling and saying for him to go somewhere else. Me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 1 year and a month an she is still continueing to disrespect him andd the relationship. Recently she has told me that if we had children they would be messed up and come out looking ugly, she always has something negative to say about chris and iam fed up. I did not fall in love with is color i fell in love with his heart and she cant see that. I could never see any of chris's friends calling me a n***** so I dont like her talking down on him. for years she has been throwing her opinions on me and not giving me say. Iam fed up, being shy and nice i really dont know hot to aproach her on this

Answer 1

I'm half asian and I've always dated white boys. I've had my fair share of racisim but never from someone who was a friend. I always have a hard time confronting people too. The best answer I can give is sit down with her and tell her you're not attacking her or disrespecting her and let her know that what she does offends you. You weren't raised (it sounds like) to judge people based on the color of their skin. You're sorry she has these issues but after a year of you guys being together you would hope she could see that you love each other and that's all that really matters. You know she has very strong opinions but they don't really matter in this case. When she dates someone then it'll matter. If it helps have your boyfriend there with you to support you. Over all I think you need to let her go as a friend. She sounds very controlling and because you're not listening to her on this subject she's determinded to break you guys up. It's not worth it. There's a million other people out there who don't care who you date. Go be friends with them. And as for the ugly baby comment, did you know some of the most beautiful people are biracial? Like Halle Berry, Jessica Alba, Namoi Cambell, Rosario Dawson, Mariah Carey, Lenny Kravitz, Mya (her mother is Italian), Malcom X is 1/4 white, Tiger Woods is 1/2 asian. There's nothing wrong with biracial children. The proof is there, just google it.

Answer 2

Forward her these emails she will get the hint.

First she is no friend. She has no right forcing her opinion on you after you have decided to go with your own feelings.

This friendship has become toxic and I advise you not to hang around her as much. If any at all. Keep the contact very limited.

If she starts talking about your boyfriend. Tell her you have to go now and hang up. Don't listen to her crap.

Answer 3

If the guy is respecting you and treating you want a man or woman, then stay with him, because no count number what race he's a "gents" is amazingly perplexing to discover. i'm sorry to assert this, yet your chum heavily isn't a chum if she is telling you that your boyfriend is not any strong because he's white. a authentic chum might want to help your determination to be with that man or woman, no count number ethnicity, faith,and so on.

Answer 4

If you like this man don't let color get in the way of your happiness,I let it happen to me I could not get over the fact that the guy I was seen was Latino and I'm a black female.what ever make you happy go for it after all is your friend given you what you need.

Answer 5

Oh great so your friend is stuck in the past. Look im a white gurl wit a bi racial family i have mixed brother and mixed neices and nephews and when i hear this shyt it pisses me off i mean come on now we are in the 21st century tell her if she cant be nice then to be gone

Answer 6

Sounds like your friend has become your jealous enemy.
She is jealous over u. You need to tell her to change her attitude or Get Lost.
Keep thinkin positive and pray for your friend.
Dont let the friend drag u down or insult your boyfriend.
Dont dare let her have that kind of power over u.

Answer 7

You should really reevaluate your friendship!! She does not sound like a good person at all.....who cares if he is white, black ,purple or any other color. If you like him, and he treats you well that is all that matters!!!!!!!! Good luck and don't let ignorant people such as your friend dictate your actions.....be firm tell her you will not tolerate her actions and if she keeps doing it I would stop being friends with her.

Answer 8

If shes doing that she dosent seem like a good friend.... tell her you have no room for racisim and you want to be her friend, but she needs to lay off the comments or risk seeing you a LOT less.

Answer 9

tell he rto go get a life and stop being up set because you have a bf who cares about you and she doesn't. And tell her chris isn't the racist one she is if she doesn't like him just cause he's white. Tell her to keep her f u c k i n g comments to her self

Answer 10

Just come out and tell her how you feel. You shouldn't let what she thinks about you and your boyfriend bother you. As long as you and him are happy the hell with her and her nasty thoughts. She might be jealous because you have some one that loves you unconditionally.