I date this guy for almost 2 years. From the first time we went out until now I am still not sure about sexuality. I dated many guys before him and I’ve never felt this way about any of them. My boyfriend really cares about his appearance. He is not reach but he buys his clothes from Gucci store. He loves interior designing. His favorite TV channel is HDTV. He likes Pet Shop Boys,Depeche Mode and disco music from 80's..There is something in the way he act sometimes, that makes me wonder whether he is gay or not. He also avoids sex with me. We have sex every other weekend. It takes him about 5 minutes...I don’t feel he is attracted to me. We never make love. We just have quick sex sometimes. He is often angry and yells all the time. He blows up for no apparent reason. I feel like maybe he feels guilty inside so he reacts with anger. Please help.
2006-10-18 13:52:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I already asked him 3 times and he got angry.He says he is not gay.
2006-10-18 13:58:44 · update #1
I knew someone who was in similar circumstances, and you might never know whether he is or not, but I would get out of the relationship simply because you are not getting everything you want out of the relationship.
2006-10-18 14:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'd have to say your very lucky that he cares about his appearence and such. The fact that he only wants sex on the weekends is a bit odd. Was it that way in the beginning because later in the relationship its not so much about sex. Does he bost to his friends and family about having a girlfriend often? If so you could just be there for appearences so they dint know hes gay. Personally I cant answer this question. Only one person can answer that question so you need to stop wasting your tine with strangers opinions and go straight to the guy that can answer this. Good luck to you. A wy to bring up the conversation. Perhaps tell him you were reading an article about gay marriages and ask his opinion. Look straight into his eyes as he answers and it will tell if you should push it any further.
2006-10-18 14:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley Oasis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps we are not the ones to ask about this.
There is really nothing "gay" or "straight" in being concerned with ones appearance, nor should it be said that a love of design makes one gay either.
He may avoid sex with you simply because this is not a driving force in his life. Despite popular belief, sex is not all that men want. Perhaps he has other things that concern him more, and is happy in the relationship you have together. The fact that he tends to be "often angry" and "yells all the time" could be related to some other issues, rather than sexuality.
Talk to him about this, rather than postiing here, it would be a lot better in the long run.
2006-10-18 13:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by The Doctor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty based on the information you have given I would say yes. Unless you have some feminine hygiene issues, there is no excuse for avoiding sex. Sure its not all men want, but when presented with it, we don't turn it down. Why are you dating him if you don't feel he is attracted to you and if he yells all the time? There are plenty of decent men out there. Albeit you will have to give up the Gucci clothes.
2006-10-18 13:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by cobratang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. maybe he isn't attracted by you. was he raised by his mother that may explain some of his behaviors? i say this over and over. talk to him, ask him whats up. there is nothing wrong with him liking how he dresses and taking time to perfect his look. that doesn't mean he is gay. when was he born ? probably in the 80's if he likes the music.
2006-10-18 14:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by HERE4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your insecure of this relationship why don't you just brake up with him. I think it really wasn't a good idea of asking him if he was gay. Don't you think that if he was he maybe wouldn't be going out with you and trying to be with a person of the same sex?
2006-10-18 14:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by torres5772@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him... be like "honey....seriously now...are you gay?"
What is his screen name and what instant messenger does he use? i can ask him if you want
And theere is a kid like this at my school: every day the only clothes that he wears is from hollister or abercombie. Its to the point where those are the only clothes in his wardrobe. its dumb. and he talks very femmy and has that gay kinda way of talking..... And get this. he says that he is straight and needs to make a point of it that he is straight. In his myspace the first things it says under "abut me" is "i'm straight" Its only a matter of time before he sees the sun through the clouds though........................................
2006-10-18 13:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be on to something. If he isn't a repressing gay, he may have some mental issues-- why does he get so angry? Either way, he needs therapy- it is not healthy to deny who you are, OR to have irrational anger.
2006-10-18 13:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey may be. none of this is an indication of it though. he might just be a very angry person. back off and let things cool off a bit and see what happens. and you don't have to have sex with him. see if he calms down a bit if you back off.
2006-10-18 13:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Donna L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go around sniffing other mens butts? If so runaway as far as possible. no seriously if you have to question it, is it really worth it. If your questioning it yourself, i think you already know the answer yourself. First step is just accepting it.
2006-10-18 13:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by sparky_butt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋