My wife wants to have a bebe(baby) I do too, but I think we shuld wait just a bit longer, what should I do?

Question

We have been married 7 years, and well at this moment it doesn't seem like the ideal time...

Answer 1

Get a haircut, and get a real job...

Answer 2

Well children are always a joy to have around, but if things just don't feel like a child would be the best idea for your lifestyle right now then don't because you're probably feeling that way for a reason! You don't want to wait too long because then you won't have time to think about having another when the first is out of diapers, you'll end up feeling rushed to have the second and then the next thing you know you have Damn Near adult diapers(that's what I call diapers on 2-3 1/2 yr old children) and little disgusting baby diapers to change! That's my look on having children!! My fiance and I had our first child TOGETHER a year ago, we weren't ready. No one ever really is because children are so different and we never know what we're going to get, literally!! My 1yr old is a nut-case she would much rather jump or fall off of the couch than be entertained by her brothers and sister. I have never encountered a baby girl like her she started walking at 9 mo and was full on running and climbing at 10 mo. I bet you'll have fun when you finally have your first! No one really plans for children, the only people that do that are people with boring lives and rich people. Planning to me ruins the whole surprise of finding out, secretly, finding out is the most exciting part next to finding out the sex of the baby!! My suggestion is talk with your wife and tell her about any anxieties you have about having a child right now maybe she can ease your worries!!! Nothing better than having open lines of pure communication!!

Answer 3

Then wait. What is the rush ? You are still young and trying to get your business going. Don't rush into things if you are not 100% sure. OK some people will say : there is NEVER an ideal time but some things at times take priority. Make sure to be financially secure : a kid COSTS a lot , takes up all your time including sleepless nights and changes a whole life and a couple 's interraction. Only people who have had them know and it is not always bed and roses either.
it is very rewarding but you have to be sure that you are ready for the roller coaster..........!
If you are still struggling financially and your mind is busy about setting up your business and worries prevail......better wait..an infant does add a lot more stress after all.
Both people should be 100% sure.
Enjoy your life together whilst you are still young as long as possible too......I mean you are not 60 !!
No-one can possibly tell somebody what to do because I am not in your shoes; up to you to weigh the pros and cons really but if there is any doubt in your mind as to NOW...

Answer 4

Tell her. Tell her you would rather wait. And, to prove how serious you are to wait, YOU put on the condom and do it to her everytime you have sex. Then she will see that you mean it. That you are not emotionally (or maybe finacially) ready for a child. I know you have been married for 7 years, but if one partner in the marriage is not ready for this even to happen, then, the other one should give it time. I hope this does not ruin your marriage with her giving you some bulls'hit ultimatum about "Well, if you really love me, then you would understand that I want to be a Mommy, NOW". Because, if she traps you like that, and you give in, trust me. Nothing good will come out of it at all. You two will be miserable.
Example: There was this couple that they showed of TLC that was very happily married. They could not really get pregnant and they went to the fertility clinic.Well, she ended up getting pregnant and had twin girls. He was happy as a clam. I mean, they went on trips, everything. He loved his wife and his girls. But, what happened? She wanted a third child. They talked and talked. He was so happy with the twins, I mean, why would you want another one? Weren't she happy with her twin girls? She was, but, she wanted that third kid. He gave in. That third kid ended up being 6! You heard me, 6! Now they have 8 children! And, when he was interview, when she talked about the times she had to feed and wash and do this and that for them, he said, coldly "Well, you wanted that third kid, remember?"
You get my point? He was not ready for 8 kids, he was very happy and satisfied with 2. But, he gave in and now he is a miserable motherf'ucker! (Check the TLC website, you'll find them.) That may be you. If you are not ready to be a father, do not let her get to you that "you may be ready." Because, if you know you are not ready, do not rush it. And, if she leaves you because of this, then, think of it this way: she did not bully you into doing something and being something that you are not prepared for and, really, do you want to be in a relationship like this? Maybe this was not meant to be. If she really loved you, she would realize that this is not what you wanted to do. I suggest you both go to counseling. Really. If she thinks this is an ideal time and is really going to go through this and going to jepordize your marriage over this, getting a divorce may not be so bad after all.

Answer 5

I think it's important that you both feel ready. But you might not ever be completely certain (because it's almost impossible to try to gauge the unknown), so I wouldn't hold out for that 100% sureness. If you're 80% into the idea, for example, I think the rest will come on its own as you adjust to the thought of becoming a father.

Answer 6

You should talk about it. If you don't you'll regret whatever decision you make. You'll get upset because she's putting pressure on you and she'll get upset because it'll seem like you aren't listening. Then if she has a baby by 'accident' you'll feel trapped. Babies are hard under the best of circumstances, so if you aren't quite ready, don't! Doesn't your baby deserve the best, even the best environment in the family home?!

Answer 7

I would say... don't use protection but at the same time, don't "try" - does that make sense? Hubby and I did the same thing, we wanted to have a baby but we didn't at the same time. So we just did things pretty much the same, and getting pregnant just happened right when it was supposed to. I wish I could give you better advice, but that's what worked for me :)

Answer 8

Why not? Finances are usually the #1 reason why couples put off having a baby.... Which in allot of cases they never feel comfortable, until after they do have one, and then they are glad they did!

Answer 9

think....think hard....still thinking?
now think about this.....if we all waited until we thought it was the 'ideal time' do you think YOU would be here today? what about the people you know, think they'd be here? your friends and family?
there is never an 'ideal time', only 'the right time'..... after 7 years and you are both still deeply in love, chances are, it is 'the right time'
good luck!

Answer 10

I dont know how old you are, but I wouldn't wait until you are 35 or so and then rush around to try to have a baby. (especially if you and your wife have a hard time conceiving...like my sister did/is)

Answer 11

you need to somewhat pass on when you consider which you may in ordinary terms look ahead to a guy see you later (even although you somewhat shouldn't look ahead to a guy) formerly you already know that its time to bypass on. he's no longer making any strikes to aim to get you adult adult males to the subsequent point and its pointless in waiting. pass on. I want you the terrific of luck !