I always thought something like having cancer can never happen to me. I was told they caught it early, so I'm lucky. My dad who is a surgeon and my mom who is a nurse said they will do everything they can through their connections in the medical field to find me the best doctor to treat me. Yesterday, I couldnt stop crying, I felt like i got hit by a truck. I have been sick but I just ignored it and never thought it would be this serious. My dad called my advisor and told her the details of what is happening. However, I was supposed to tell my friends today but i didnt have the courage to...I dont know how to even start to tell my friends....please help!!!
2006-10-18 13:34:16 · 11 answers · asked by cutegirlie008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is my junior year of college, so I'm also afraid about putting my education on hold as well....as much as i hate studying....I know I have to graduate from college, this will put me behind my schedule
2006-10-18 13:36:23 · update #1
Call the american Cancer society they have very loving people called Navigators who will listen to you and provide lots of information...It is scarry I know but you can live thru this. Just think of Lance A. he has brought attention to the disease and there are many treatments and medicines so you don't have to be nausious or in pain.
I am a 5 year ovarian cancer survivor. mine was cought late in stage4(only34%chance of living this long) but I survivealmost in remission too. and you can too. Do take care of yourself and be gentle with yourself. The answers will come. There is a large network of survivors and other interested people who will be glad to help you as you live with this challenge.
Good luck to you. there are chemos that do not make you bald you might want to try those first...just get the information you need and know people do live through this to die of old age from other causes. It is not a death sentence like it usted to be.
2006-10-18 13:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by surfnsfree 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you had to go through this. Sweetheart, just remember that you are extrememly fortunate to have parents in the field. They are going to do the best for you and your health.
Be thankful that you caught the symptoms early and not too late. You have a fantastic chance of survival. All the odds are in your favour.
I hope that everything is going to be alright for you. <3<3
2006-10-18 20:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have cancer but I do have two best friends with terminal illnesses, and one has lung cancer. She did not tell us for almost 4 months after she found out. She had to take the time to cope with herself and get her self right spiritually with God. When she had the strength to tell us without falling to pieces, she did.
She has the attitude now of strength and determination to get the important things done in her life that have to be and knows that God is not punishing her, it is just a card she was dealt and she is dealing accordingly. She was just recently found to be in remission but she is making sure she stays on top of things so that her cancer will stay in remission.
When you feel strong, tell your friends a little at a time. Though you will welcome the love and warmth and help, my friend says it started to get annoying because people thought she had become helpless. She told people in bits and pieces to allow them to acclimate before she told more. It helped her to cope and deal with it all.
Prayer, love, and your family and friends are what you need. Learn to lean on them for support now. Just do it at your time. Okay?
I hope this helps you.
2006-10-18 22:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...im really sorry that you have cancer. and god willing your doctors will treat you aggressively and with good results. you are in shock at this time, as anyone would be. dont feel u must rush to tell anyone. give yourself some time to adjust to this,and arm yourself with knowledge.people will naturally ask lots of questions. this can be a good and bad thing. some of the questions your friends may ask,may be something you havent thought of. i got myself a notebook, and jotted down questions, and thoughts. when you see your oncologist, ask lots of questions, and refer to your notebook. when you are in the doctors office, you get a little overwhelmed and emotional, so its good to refer to your notes. i found this to be the best advise i got from a cancer survivor.
2006-10-18 20:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by patchoulii2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please have a long read of this page, and if you can, get your mum and dad to read it too. They will not believe it at first, but if they look at it, they will begin to think about it, and maybe they will then do some more research.
It is very important that you read right the way through. It is quite long, but you can do it in several sessions.
Good luck!
2006-10-20 08:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try posting this in the health catagory, you may get a better answer there. I wouldnt know where to start on that. I'm sorry, and I wish you the best!
2006-10-18 20:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send your friends an e-mail message if its too hard for you to say it. or write it down and the next time you see them give them the note. i hope you will get better sorry i couln't think of anything better.
2006-10-18 20:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by roxy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if i waz u id tell them i have a very serious somthing i have to tell you tell em and tell them all the deatails butt still hold on to your life dont let go even throu kemo DONT
2006-10-18 20:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u hav to hav the courage to tell them,if u cant,dont
2006-10-18 20:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by smart_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friends whenever you see them and enjoy the best days of your life :):):)
well just in case tho
2006-10-18 20:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋