she had a beautiful house, car, regular holidays, clothes, new furniture whenever she wanted, never had to go out to work, WHY would she want to chuck it all away?
2006-10-18 13:22:50 · 48 answers · asked by ellen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's probably tired of the same old, same old and is bored. Unfortunately, having all these material things does not guarantee she's going to be happy and contented where she's at.
2006-10-18 13:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You believe that they were 30 happy years. If she's chucking it away, it's possible that they weren't that happy. For a woman who is probably around 50 to leave her marriage, there really has to be a strong motivation. So I don't think the two of you have the same view of the last 30 years.
Not what you want to hear, but unless she's suddenly developed a mental illness, probably the truth.
2006-10-18 13:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by sjbluebelle 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your wife wasn't happy or she wouldn't have left. There were probably some warning sign's before she left. I noticed that you didn't mention that she had a husband that loved her? All the things you mentioned are just material things. Maybe you were so busy making money that you neglected too give her the one thing that she wanted most...your love and attention. I know a couple of women that walked out on their husbands after 20-25 years of marriage, I also know that they both told me that the reason was...they had everything money could buy,but would have gave it all up if their husband would have just spent time with them, showed them they loved them,.I wish you luck in your next relationship, but please think about what I've said...love is more important than material things.
2006-10-18 14:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were all those 30 years happy for her though? Its unlikely a happy person would chuck away 30 happy years so no doubt she wasnt happy. Probably she was bored. You havent said anything about love either - if she didnt feel loved she would leave.
2006-10-19 00:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that is what makes a woman happy having nice things. You are so far off the track,it's more to it then having nice things. We as women NEED to be treated the way we were in the beginning.We were special, adored,listened to and APPRECIATED and in return we gave you our hearts for ever.Yes having nice things are well and good but you men take us for granted. You put everything before us and expect us to keep on loving you, slowly but surely we will stop loving you,when a woman falls out of love it doesn't in most cases come back.
2006-10-18 14:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess somewhere along the line you were not singing from the same hymn sheet !!!!! BUT having said that, she does owe you something................so why don't you ask her. 30 years of material comfort is to be commended on your part. you obviously worked hard to achieve this for her (and the children, if there are any). maybe it is time to sit back and enjoy the fruits of your labour WITH her. Have another go and talk to her about it. Good Luck.
2006-10-22 12:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by biggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
years ago i remember my mom having an affair,mom had more than all of her sisters, a beautiful home, she didn't have to work,she had nice furniture, but one thing was missing, dad worked long hours,and didn't give her much attention. the other man involved had nothing, not even a steady job, but still i think mom thought of this man as the love of her life.it's not about things, it's about the time one spends nurturing a relationship.
2006-10-18 15:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a house and clothes and holidays and furniture don't mean she's happy....these are material things....you say after 30 years she's happy....maybe you are but she ain't, if she was then she'd still be there....give her something else other than material things...it's not what she wants...she's bored....she wants love and affection, excitement and adventure...not a new couch or another new dress to wear....wake up
2006-10-18 13:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who Will ever understand WOMEN. But at the end of the day she obviously wants different things to you. Try talking to her and find out why she left. It may be something easily rectified. Good luck.
Remember there's always a younger model willing to step into her shoes.
2006-10-19 04:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by BIG T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of relationship was it? As a woman grows older she grows in confidence too. There is a point when we die doing things for ourselves. Sometimes men who usually provide think that they did it all, they don't ask themselves what else we would like to do with our lives. Life is too short, specially when an other person set the rules for you.
2006-10-18 18:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mex d'or 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋