He feels the need for reassurance, so guys, what are ways that make you feel secure in a relationship?
2006-10-18 12:55:18 · 7 answers · asked by Tara A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not him that has come with this issecurity all on his own, it has been my lack of communication, and I'm working on that, but iin the meantime I don't want him to forget that I have never meant to hurt him by not talking to him the way he feels, and I know I should have.
2006-10-18 13:04:41 · update #1
how old are you?
cuz if your not over 30
dont lie to him
or yourself
2006-10-18 12:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer is doing the well known things that you know he likes (cooking his favorite meal, desserts, wearing clothes he likes, etc.) but the not so obvious answer which shows how caring and observant you are would be to remember small (seemingly insignificant) things that he might share with you in an offhanded way. Examples: Remembering a song he liked and getting the music and surprising him by playing it during a special dinner. If he casually admired an article of clothing on someone else, go buy it for him. Remember his favorite color, his favorite song, his favorite movie(s) and making sure there are plenty of those things in his life show you care. As far as reassurance, just give him compliments out of the blue when he might least expect it. Only you can pick the SINCERE compliments, but just give them to him at unexpected times ... like changing the subject in the middle of a sentence to tell him how mesmerized you are with his very blue (brown or green) eyes! It'll take him completely by surprise, and he'll love it! In the end, it's the subtle LITTLE things that show a person pays attention and really cares for another.
2006-10-18 13:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Security comes from within, not from without. You can't "reassure" him that he will be "the only one ever", because even you have no way of knowing it. Every relationship carries a risk; you have to balance your trust in the other person and a realistic assessment of the risks involved. The greater the love, the greater the reward, but the greater are the risks and the responsibilities it brings. It sounds like he can't face the risks and the responsibilities at this time; no one can ultimately help him come to terms with it but himself.
2006-10-18 13:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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He feels the need for reassurance, so guys, what are ways that make you feel secure in a relationship?
2015-08-18 15:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a difference between telling someone you love them and showing them.
Sometimes, people need to feel the love in order to believe the person that claims to love them. I am the same way. I would say that you should be affection, trusting, caring, and responsible in the relationship. Make sure the two of you are communiacting, always compromise with him, and work together as a unit.
2006-10-18 12:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there over time....It will sink in eventually. I'm not sure there's one thing my wife does, but she's always been there for me. Also, keep in mind, an idle mind is the devils play ground... so the busier he is the less time he has to think about you possibly not loving him or worse.
2006-10-18 13:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by im4shannon2day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no sex until your married.
Insist on keeping your virginity until you're married.
If you want to piss him off, go to bed with him and yell out his BEST FRIENDS NAME when you have an orgasm.
2006-10-18 12:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity is a major problem, if he needs it, it may be a sign of trouble. Or it could be a way to see you caravel to appease him.
2006-10-18 12:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person has to feel secure in a relationship or not -all on their own. It is not your place to MAKE another person feel secure!
2006-10-18 13:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him ulove him, hes the sexiest man alive, u appreciate what he does for u, u love everything about him, he looks good naked, lol hes a good cook,kisser, lover...anything makes guys feel better especially if u compliment their bedroom skills or their member lol :) goodluck
2006-10-18 13:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋